Your relationship after a baby: will it always be like this??

[babygooner]

So, DH and I, who have always had the best and most equal of relationships do nothing but squabble and bicker since DD was born 6 months ago. I am turning into every mother/housewife before me doing all the household chores, looking after DD and nagging DH. It wasn't supposed to be like this! He's not a bad bloke, in fact he iss a great bloke. But that is what makes it even more depressing! Please tell me it gets better! Or this just what happens when children come along.. you turn into your mother!

I have had an awful day (not children related but plasterer/electrician related) and have just had a really good belly laugh at you post J&J. I really needed that.

I just don't understand why DH never says 'Mummy is in the bath lets leave her alone' no I hear 'Go and tell Mummy you have weed in your pants she is in the bathroom'.

I also have been on the loo with baby on the boob. All my builders have seen my boobs on a daily basis for the last three months (not general flashing but in a breastfeeding capacity). I had all these ideas of going upstairs to breastfeed, that never happened. I have also answered the front door to the postman not realisng my dressing gown is open and he can see my pants.

My DH has gone to bed tonight without supper as he is so tired. He wasn't the one changing the moses basket bedding and DD at 1am as she had done a monster wee.

Gosh I have moaned. Things do get better - I hope!

Arf! So glad I posted as am feeling much better about it all. This am, DD managed a little sleep in which meant she wouldn't have a nap after DH had gone to work so I needed to try and have quick shower whilst he was here. He, however, wouldn't get out of bed when I asked him and then got all snappy about having to leave for work in TWO mins so I'd have to have a really QUICK shower. I chuckled to myself at these posts as I took a leisurely shower whilst DH stormed around downstairs.

It does get better....my Dp comes home every day and rushes to take dd3(25 months) off to play in the garden/down to the park/get the paints out...he keeps her occupied all evening and baths her too. I pop in and out of whatever/wherever they're doing and sometime stay and join in and sometimes go have a bath/read a book/ talk to dd1 and dd2/ prepare supper etc

It's a nice time for me as I know everyone is happy and supervised but I am relatively free!!

he's knackered at the moment more than ever and once she hads gone to bed he's friving back to work and not coming home til 11.30pm....
He could just stay and work through til 9ish but then he would miss his little girl, so he does the drive home/drive back...

My dh is feeling smug now as he hardly ever gets to poo alone (his fault for always pooing at the same time each day). Sorry, TMI!!!!!

Oh god this thread is such a relief! Just had a massive row with DH because he always finds time to go for a run at 5am but never time to do DDs morning feed. He was stomping about before he left so she woke up and I’ve been entertaining her since.

Lol at the attempts to one up on each other!
“I woke up at 4 to put the dummy back in”
“Big deal! I did it at 2 and 3 and have been entertaining her since 5!”

He always finds time to lie on the couch at weekends to watch films whilst I run around entertaining DD and doing the chores. I agree it’s just resentment that I’ve had to pick up everything whilst his life has just been mildly inconvenienced.

Zombie thread 12 years old.

@kirstywursty012 why don't you start your own thread?

It does get easier. Our youngest now 2.5 and we're over that patch now, and due another next month!

It was constant tit for tat, who was the most hard done by and who was the most overworked.

It wasn't until my brother and SIL had their first recently I realised from an outsider of their squabbles that was literally us a year before hand!

It does pass I promise, lack of sleep has a lot to do with it. Babies are tough going

"Zombie thread 12 years old" - Just realised this after posting!