Would you tell if you learned of two people having an affair?

[avoschmado]

Just that. They've kept it hidden for five long years but now I know - she, the other woman, told me. He's married with two kids. Now that I know I feel burdened by it and it's eating away at me. Would you say something to the wife?

Yes, I have done. I'd want to know, so I felt I had to tell- although I forced him into telling the truth, as I didn't want to get too embroiled.

I've been cheated on.

And that's why I wouid tell. The person who told me was the only person in the whole dirty mess whomscted with integrity. I was the last to know and I can assure you that's a horrible position to be in.

The person blowing apart a family isn't the messenger. It's the cheater

keep out of it. not your business nor your role to be bearer of news.

I agree RandomMess though. When OW starts getting this chatty about it she’s in the delusion that his wife will find out and kick him out. She’s drip feeding in the hope someone grasses them up - she doesn’t haven’t to take much of the blame

As someone who has been cheated on yes I would tell if you have concrete evidence. If anyone had known how my husband had been lying to me I wish they'd had told me. Would have saved me years of misery.