Stalking Instagram Stories

[WinterNightsByCandleLight]

Right, ladies, is this weird?

One of my OH's work colleagues doesn't follow me on Instagram (and doesn't have me on Facebook either) - the two other women who work in his department that OH is close with, do follow me, and I follow them also! We all get along well and regularly chat/have banter etc - not sure that's relevant but thought I'd add it in anyway!

So, the one that doesn't follow me (who I also don't follow)..
I noticed this evening that she'd watched my Instagram story that I posted this afternoon. Upon spotting this, I went back through my Archive of Instagram stories and have seen that she's been watching my daily stories almost religiously for nearly three months now?! 🤔 To watch someone's story that you dont follow, you need to search for them to get to their profile and then watch it that way - as opposed to when you do follow someone, their story will appear at the top of your feed making it nice and easy to quickly tap and see what people are posting.

Is it weird that she's quite blatantly searching for my profile on an almost daily basis to watch my stories!? I think it is.. I told OH about it but he can't see why it bothers me. For the record, it's not that it 'bothers' me as such, I just find it quite creepy and strange!

Oh and before people jump to it, I can categorically rule out anything going on between weird stalker colleague and my OH!

On Instagram I often just click onto the first story on my feed and just slide through them. She may be doing that

But it all boils down to the fact that she isn't following me, she's actively seeking out my profile each time..

But she might not be!! As i posted earlier stories come up on explore page. Before anyone says no they dont i totally get that they dont pn some devices they appear not to on one of mine they do on the other. I posted proof they do.

For instance i've just watched a few of stories from someone (in this case famous) i dont know or have pretty mich no interest in because his stories came up on my explore page and i just watched the first person who waa on my explore pages stories and i hadnt realised that hers had ended. (They live in.a similar area so the first few pictures looked similar) on the explore page stories are also grouped geograpically if you've geo tagged them i

Its likely that given sge works with your husband she lives in the same area as you again making it come on her explore page.

But you and others all want to think its weird even though an explination has been offered

We don't live in the same area, I don't tag my location on any of my posts, or use hashtags and we don't follow the same people, so I have literally no reason to be coming up on her explore page - that's just not possible. I can say with almost 99% certainty that she's viewing my stories by way of searching for me, and clicking on them that way.

And I don't have any form of relationship with her. I met her once over four years ago and that's literally it. We don't speak, ever. I don't follow her. My OH doesn't follow her or have her on Facebook.

Also, someone mentioned about the wedding - she wasn't there that night. I've literally met the woman once for all of five minutes years ago and have had nothing to do with her since..

Third world problems.

Seriously though op she’s intrigued by you. That’s why she’s looking and who knows the reason (fancies you, fancies your dp, likes your fashion sense, doesn’t like you or dp, could be anything!). Maybe she’s just a bit bored.

I wouldn’t over think it and block her if you don’t want her seeing, or follow her and see if she does back.

If you look at poeple without following then as soon as you click search a list of those accounts will come up as recently viewed. It's not a case of her having to put your whole name in everyday. I don't follow anyone but sometimes look at a couple of accounts because I'm nosy.

She is probably having a good old laugh at your stories with her mates but doesn't want to add you your inflated ego by becoming a follower.
I can't see any other explanation as to why it would bother you so much.

I cannot believe someone would actually have this conversation with their partner and is over the age of 16
"you know that colleague, who doesn't follow me on insta babe? Well she keeps looking at my stories but isn't following me, that's so weird right?"

Fuddle it's 'sad' to wonder why my OH's colleague is going on to my profile every day to see what I'm doing despite not following me/barely knowing me whatsoever?If people genuinely can't see that her behaviour is odd then I literally don't know what else to say

I don't think it is much more odd than posting constantly then wondering why people are looking. And yes I understand how Instagram works.

If you don't want people to look then go private or block them.

Mine come up on the explore page too, even if you have mutual friends or likes. You're reading too much into this. If you don't like it go private

Lmao.

If someone I worked with - but didn't have an actual friendship with - was creeping on my OH I'd find that weird. 100%.

Again, I feel like people are missing the point. She's choosing to go though her recent searches, every, single, day, to see what I'm doing - someone she doesn't know or follow. I can't wrap my head around why some of you aren't finding that weird!?

I know everyone's different but honestly, I'd never do something like that and I think that's why I'm struggling to understand why someone else would.

My guess is that she was annoyed or sad that she didn't get invited to the wedding and so she looked you up at first to see if you'd posted photos about what it was like and who was actually invited.

Maybe then what she saw made her interested enough in your life to keep on looking?

I used to do this to someone because I had a crush on her BF, then I found out you can see who sees your stories and I very quickly got over that obsession. Mortifying.

I'd say she's either got a crush on your husband, she's got a girl crush on you or she's a bit fascinated with your life / relationship. It's weird yes. But she's probably be so embarrassed if she knew so I'd just leave it if it's causing no harm.

As a minimum she fancies your DH and is checking out the competition.

I find it strange that your DH doesn't find it strange and wouldn't be surprised if there was more going on between them.

We don't live in the same area, I don't tag my location on any of my posts, or use hashtags and we don't follow the same people, so I have literally no reason to be coming up on her explore page - that's just not possible

It is actually the person i was refering to lives in LA, i most definately DO NOT, he is a fitness buff, I AM NOT, no one i follow follows him, i wouldnt folllow him. Yet he still came up on my explore page.

She's choosing to go though her recent searches, every, single, day, to see what I'm doing - someone she doesn't know or follow. I can't wrap my head around why some of you aren't finding that weird!?

But she isn’t doing that!! Several posters have explained and you obviously aren’t listeing to them, you’re just repeating the same old rubbish. You have the issue here, not her.

She does not need to search for you “every single day”.
She will have searched for you once and looked on your profile, after that your Stories will come up at the top of her Instagram feed, so she will never have to search for you again.
I have a few people like this- Victoria Beckhm is one, I don’t want to follow her but because I’ve searched her once, she’s always there at the top of my feed, along with other people I’ve searched for.

I still think it's strange that it's happening every day regardless of how she's coming to do it.
My life is not interesting at all. I'm a SAHM who honestly posts mundane shit. I don't think it's worth watching every single day, I post out of boredom a large chunk of the time. If someone's stories were popping up on my explore page - which they don't because I seem to have a newer version of IG to some people - I wouldn't choose to watch someone's stuff that was boring. I'd just skip it or not click on it at all.

Either way. This all started three months ago and has happened consistently since, whether it's an algorithm that's randomly bringing me up (though like I said, it's coincidental for me to show up given we have nothing in common Instagram-wise) or she's choosing to search for me - I'll never know!

Mine currently - no one i know follows pippa, i doubt any one other than my cousin and ronan keatings ex wife knows who the hell she is. Yet there's pippa on my explore page

Body coach- nope i dont live in LA, I HAVE ZERO interest in his work - but oh look there he is on my explore page and is there quite a,lot.

Bean in dingle - the one and only time i've been to dingle was when i was 10, i'm now pushing 40, so why would i want a coffee shop on tje west coast of orelands stories i live in tje south west of the uk.

Gilda gilson, actually my cousin and yvonne do follow her so yeah i guess that one makes sense.

So yes it doesnt actally matter. They still come up on explore

Either way. This all started three months ago and has happened consistently since, whether it's an algorithm that's randomly bringing me up (though like I said, it's coincidental for me to show up given we have nothing in common Instagram-wise) or she's choosing to search for me - I'll never know!*

No ones life is very interesting to be honest.

But ask her, or add her or block her or set your profile to private.

All of which have been suggested on here. But no you want to go on about how weird it is and others want to go on about her and your oh.

My old explore page (the one that looks like the one you just posted) did used to show stories from random people who had a lot of followers/the blue ticks. That used to happen with mine, though it never brought up people with hardly any followers/the same person every day.

I mean, whatever. I keep banging out about finding it weird because it does seem weird to me. Fair enough if some of you think it's perfectly normal though!

I'm a SAHM who honestly posts mundane shit. I don't think it's worth watching every single day,

Why the heck are you posting it then?😂

Like others have said I suspect she has a crush on your OH,
I can see your frustration with some of these replies! As she is clearly searching for you everyday to see what you’re up to.

Regardless of whether you’re private or public, some random work colleague of your DH is actively seeking you out - it’s weird...

You wouldn’t pop up in the explore feed everyday.

Like one poster suggested I’d maybe go private for a bit, then change back to see if she’s still seeking you out.

She probably doesn’t understand how the insta stories work and that you can see viewings!

Mine brings up the same people every day! The only way to get rid of them is watching them and even then it doesnt always.

Even if you think its weird, you have an open profile if you dont like people stumbling across it, MAKE IT PRIVATE. Something thats been suggested here. But you don't want to do that.

So block this particalar person, again something thats been suggsted here but no you appear not to want to do that.

Add her and ask why shes looking af your stories, no you apparently cant do that.

You just want to go on about how weird it is! The solution has veen offered numeroys times

You wouldn’t pop up in the explore feed everyday

I do, several times a day, so does my best friend, my cousin, and any number of my friends.

My friend has ended up following pages from australia and america that she'd never have known about if it wasnt for the explore page.

My cousins kids find all sorts of menes and nonsence on the explore page

Again, I feel like people are missing the point.

No one is missing the point. For some reason the women wants to watch the content you put out there but not follow you. It means she can control what she sees and what she's doesn't. If you don't like it then block her.

Why doesn’t mine do that, am I missing an update or something!