If your DH wanted to donate sperm how would you feel?

[Spider]

Numbers of sperm donors have plummetted aparently, since they lost the right to be anonymous.

So if your dh wanted to donate sperm to couples who wanted children but needed sperm, would you have any problem with that?

If so what?

I have a good reason for asking but I'm off to pick up the kids now and will check back with interest.

Oh spider. I'm sorry.

I think I'm in the minority on this thread. I would donate eggs (but, due to the albeit small risk, only once we have had all our children, and seeing as I'm 30, pg with no. 2 and we would like a third and possibly a fourth, I don't know when that will be) and would have no problem with dh donating sperm. I have read the thread and those that wouldn't like it have very valid arguments and have made me thoughtful, but I still genuinely feel I would not mind it, or feel any children that arose from it were 'our' children. Our children have become our children through the act of conception, through pg and birth. OK, it is an utterly theoretical situation now, I might feel differently if we were ever really considering it.

I would have a huge problem that he didn't discuss it, and that it was all happening when there were already problems. I wouldn't have a problem with the donation itself though, it's the people who love the child and bring it up that are the real parents.

Spider, I'd be furious if I were in your shoes, too.

But as a hypothetical question, no, I wouldn't object. If dh and I discussed it first, of course. Strikes me it would be a lovely thing to do. Dunno, maybe I'd have a problem with the reality, but in theory, I'd be supportive.

(My mother is adopted, so I don't have a problem with non-biological relatives bringing up children, btw.)

I want my DH to but he's too old.

There is no way I'd let him, he's my dh that's my sperm too and I don't want it going anywhere!
When you have children you have a responsibility to nurture them not trust them to strangers.

My sis, kind of obliquely (I hope I didnt misunderstand!!!) who is a lesbian, seen=med to ask if my dh would donate for her to have kids (2 yrs on, no kids)

Dh said no - he wanted to be the Dad, with proper input, of any kids he fathered. He doesnt agree with my sisters lifestyle (the f/f thng bothers him but nothing like as much as many other things bout the way they have chosen to live - Not a giving way of life adn he wouldnt want any children he regarded as his to be brought up this way.

He was also sensitive about the M/C issue. We have 3 children, but have also had 3 m/c and he didnt want to find that fathering chlldren elsewhere was easier, or me, and my issues.

And a lot of the 'no' thoug not a mainissue, is I just dont get on too well with my sis, and I wouldnt want to have this extra bond with her - just one thing too much.

But we did seriously consider it. Its just a nono for us.