My ex has completely blanked me for the last 4 days...

[Hidinginthebath]

We split up about 3 weeks ago, I moved out of his and into a place I bought. We were having really bad problems because basically he's an addict.

I had to move myself in one day, with no help so left various stuff at his, most of which he returned but my tortoise is still there and he owes me £600. Anyway we had a major disagreement on Thursday night, about him prioritising drugs (again) over bringing me something. He lied to me saying he couldn't come over that night because he had a bad back but basically he's been phoning in sick at work on gone on a massive binge I think, because he got a loan on Wednesday.

I haven't heard anything from him since Thursday night. I've sent two messages and just tried to ring him and he's blanking me. I need to get my tortoise back and I also want him to pay me at least some of the money he owes me. What the fuck do I do? He's broken me. I am the one being blanked and ignored but I haven't done anything to him. I feel totally lost and stuck.

I couldn't look at him. He's so neglectful. Of himself, of my dc, my our poor baby tortoise and of me.

I will never ever trust a man ever again.

Oh no I’m seething for you. What a cunt!! I hope things get better for you.

That’s awful :(

So sorry

Can anyone give me any tips on how to break it to DD? I've kept the tortoises body. Is the best way to have a little burial?

OP, put the tortoise under the heat lamp for an hour or two, just to be sure. Mine look totally dead and unrevivable when hibernating.

I’m sorry about your pet.

Please do the freedom programme. There’s nothing about you that makes men become violent or addicts. You didn’t cause their issues.

These things were there when you met them, you just didn’t see them. Addicts are the most manipulative people and the best liars .

Violent men are often extremely charming. They have fooled smarter women than you I promise you.

Even if you were the most difficult person in the world, a decent man would end the relationship, NOT hit you.

Please go for some help so you can believe this for yourself.

Why would you do this? Why would you destroy things?
That's what addicts do.
Just remember the 3 C's of addiction.
None of this is your fault at all.
Could you get a replacement tortoise?
If not then a little burial would be a good thing to do.
I really hope your DD is OK when you tell her.
Sorry you've been through so much shit.