Hmm really fancy this bloke, and he likes me, BUT he is my (sort-of) mate's EX..

[allgonebellyup]

He has been flirty with me for a while, but i know they have only JUST split up and are having to think of selling the house etc.
She is my sort-of friend, only known them both for about 3months, but our dds are in the same dance class and live nearby.

The bloke gave my dd a lift to a day out the whole dance class was having and asked for my number in case of emergency.
So then he was texting me all day and even called me.
i know they are split now but she doesnt know hes been texting me and i think she would go mad, although she says to me she would be happy to be rid of him..i feel weird being her mate and listening to her talking about the split and how he sleeps on the sofa...WHILST he is texting me..

i know i should steer clear, shouldnt i?? i have told him to go away for a while but deep down i do like him.
i dont want to be a shitty crap friend.

well, quick update, he's been nice as pie for a couple of days, then kept asking me all about my fave sex positions etc which i find sleazy (talking about it with him).
so i said "you will never know!"

Now he says he can't "be doing with" me as i blow hot and cold all the time, and he is "very busy" for the next few days so i wont be hearing from him.
Basically i think he's realised he aint getting sex from me so has run away.

Am well rid

LOL, well done. Now do you see why she split up with him?
It won't be long before you find someone to have fun with guilt-free, this is the start of the rest of your life after all. For all my pontificating I probably would have shagged him and regretted it and got into a right old mess. So glad I'm not single!

allgonebellyup glad you saw his true colours before you bedded him, typical bloke gets shirty cause you wont sleep with him, what a prick

Well i thought he had gone..

..been trying to call me all morning..and i have ignored it so far..

tell him your on the blob

He sounds sneaky. Is he just after a shag ? He is behaving as if he is.

i did say im on the blob, and he knows full well i wont be having sex with him when my children are in the same house!

He says he is popping round tonight(though he is now living 40miles away) to talk to me, i guess at least he does know there will be no sex,theres no harm in just talking?
and am v good at self control BTW!

that will be the start of him slagging off his ex (your friends) and getting you to feel sorry for him and fall into bed together, keep his gagging, lol

didn't you text his ex girlfriend by accident with a text meant for him, what happened with that? weren't you dreading seeing her at the weekend? or have I got the wrong person?

no, this is the right person, i saw her at weekend and she didnt say anything at all about it - so im assuming she didnt get it? he didnt get it either.
Will see her in an hour too!!

the only thing that may have saved my skin is that my phone often conks out (turning itself off)just as i press "send," so the receiver never gets the text. i hope this is whats happened as i am too scared to ask her!
(must get new phone though, its a PITA when i think ive sent a text and it never actually gets sent..)

Why don't you make that actually happen - accidentally send her a text meant for him. Would get everything out in the open and be a nice test to see how he reacts etc.

God i would be too scared!

anyway its not going any further - he came round last night, i got pissed as a fart, then he kinda grabbed me and we snogged for a while. then he went off at midnight to catch his train and havent heard from the weirdo since!!

How do i end up having such fleeting flings with these strange men?
plus he spent a fortune on those huge flowers, drink and posh chocolates for me - why bother?

oh and also he started getting all weird saying "you know i dont want a relationship, i just think youre beautiful" etc (ie i want to shag you)

and now he has the balls to ignore me?
Well sod him, he was a slimy loser anyway.

tell him you want a relationship and cant wait to get married and have kids with him, that will get get rid of him

oh god he came round last night and we ending up having sex. then he totally freaked out, put his clothes back on and ran out the front door. Havent heard from him since, unsurprisingly.

Had to see his ex partner (my sort of friend) this morning and act like nothing had happened but i felt sick to my stomach.She was asking what i'd been up to lately, i just couldnt tell her i'd been having sex with her ex just 12hrs before.

Now i miss my ex dh even more and the thought that he is with someone else makes me feel sick too.
What a total mess.

oh no, what are you going to do?

Well i guess i will just ignore this bloke from now on (and seeing as he is ignoring me too makes it easy). i wont tell his ex as theres no point upsetting her over a one night stand that shouldnt have happened.

But with my ex-dh there is nothing i can do, i kicked him out as we werent getting on but now i miss him like crazy as he was v good to me, but he had met someone else!it hurts like hell, like someone twisting a knife in my stomach. i feel like it serves me right.

Lou, this is all i need after that awful date on sunday!! (lone parents thread)

i'd steer clear. he's on the rebound.

has met someone else, (after we split). there were always lots of girls after him, i shouldve known he wouldnt be single for long, and he's a really decent bloke, v kind.

do you think that's why you ended up having sex with him?

because the date was so bad you wanted him to make you feel good about yourself?

is he that important it's worth risking your friendship over?

well she's not a close friend as i dont know her that well..

.. think i slept with him cos i was drunk and also hurting v much that my lovely ex has found someone else so quickly.

so what are you going to do now?

Well, nothing!

dont want anything to do with the bloke i slept with, and my ex wont have anything to do with me really!

so will just leave it..

have you tried talking to your ex?

er, yes!! he wont have anything to do with me since i told him to move out, he comes to take the kids out but doesnt really talk to me. He has met someone else in the 3 months we have been apart and i have to listen to my ds who is 3, going on and on about how wonderful this woman is, and how he loves her more than he loves me..

There is nothing i can do, my dh is adamant he will never come back, and now he has met someone new it is even more unlikely.
so i guess i have a life of singledom facing me, or shagging useless tossers who literally run out the front door...!