Hi Mumsnetters
I’d only even stumbled across the term EA by accident a few weeks ago, and feel awful about everything, so need some advice.
Have a crush on a guy from work, see him face to face rarely, we have had to work on projects together which involve email, and text etc. We have formed a bond and have been texting for more or less a year, increasingly less work related with an occasional flirty one. DH knows we are friends and no text messages are deleted etc (I don’t feel the messages are out of order).
Last few weeks the texts got a bit too flirty and then one evening while we were both drunk, we both confessed that we liked each other! This took my crush to a “holy poop this could be a real thing” level.
In the cold light of (sober) day, we discussed that nothing would ever happen as we are both married, and that sexting would not happen either as it would be too dangerous to pursue that route in case it lead to something.
But. And here’s what’s bothering me. Neither of us want to cut contact, and we both still want each other in each other’s lives. Him texting me is the highlight of my day. We text multiple times a day, usual humdrum everyday topics.
Is this an EA still? Was it, but it’s not now? Do you think being “friends” is even possible now we know we both like each other (more than platonically)
I’ve no idea where my head is at :(
Thanks x