Hello to everyone who remembers my posts (I added myself to their filthy fb chat, kicked him out and then found proof of a physical affair) and thank you to those who continued to support me on my last thread. I thought I would come back with an update as you were all so lovely and offered me great advice and support.
I would like to say I haven't been on here in a while as I've been on a world cruise with a gorgeous man, but sadly I just hit rock bottom. I asked to work from home which was a huge mistake as I basically became a recluse. I kept a front up when people were around but spent many days while the kids were out not moving from my bed or the sofa, I'm ashamed to say that a shower was too much effort some days.
My turning point was last week when my friend came round and asked me "what the fuck is going on with your eyebrows???" They were somewhat unruly! I have been to have them done, had my hair dyed and cut, then bought some new clothes (I've dropped from a 16 to 12 - silver lining and all that). Now I literally feel like a new woman!!
I has already pushed ahead on the divorce for unreasonable behaviour. Stbx begged, cried and pleaded for another chance. Part of me was tempted, just to get my old easy life back, but I saw sense. OW and her husband have remained together, I haven't spoken to him since the last time I told you about. It annoyed me at first but then I realised that stbx has thrown our marriage away and he doesn't even get the chance of the booby prize of being with her. I was jealous at first that her husband could find it in him to forgive when I couldn't, but then I thought more about how their marriage will probably never be the same now she has betrayed his trust. I couldn't put myself through that but if it's what he wants then I hope it works for his sake.
My daughters have a good relationship with their dad now, it has become the new normal and they are coping brilliantly. And my mum is still epic!!
Sorry that was so long! But again- a massive thank you to all that helped me. I can never say how much it means xx