Update to added myself to H and OW fb chat

[MissMarpleMyArse]

Hello to everyone who remembers my posts (I added myself to their filthy fb chat, kicked him out and then found proof of a physical affair) and thank you to those who continued to support me on my last thread. I thought I would come back with an update as you were all so lovely and offered me great advice and support.
I would like to say I haven't been on here in a while as I've been on a world cruise with a gorgeous man, but sadly I just hit rock bottom. I asked to work from home which was a huge mistake as I basically became a recluse. I kept a front up when people were around but spent many days while the kids were out not moving from my bed or the sofa, I'm ashamed to say that a shower was too much effort some days.
My turning point was last week when my friend came round and asked me "what the fuck is going on with your eyebrows???" They were somewhat unruly! I have been to have them done, had my hair dyed and cut, then bought some new clothes (I've dropped from a 16 to 12 - silver lining and all that). Now I literally feel like a new woman!!
I has already pushed ahead on the divorce for unreasonable behaviour. Stbx begged, cried and pleaded for another chance. Part of me was tempted, just to get my old easy life back, but I saw sense. OW and her husband have remained together, I haven't spoken to him since the last time I told you about. It annoyed me at first but then I realised that stbx has thrown our marriage away and he doesn't even get the chance of the booby prize of being with her. I was jealous at first that her husband could find it in him to forgive when I couldn't, but then I thought more about how their marriage will probably never be the same now she has betrayed his trust. I couldn't put myself through that but if it's what he wants then I hope it works for his sake.
My daughters have a good relationship with their dad now, it has become the new normal and they are coping brilliantly. And my mum is still epic!!
Sorry that was so long! But again- a massive thank you to all that helped me. I can never say how much it means xx

Awesome!

Great update @MissMarpleMyArse don't feel bad about hitting a low, you were running on pure adrenaline for so long that I think it's normal to crash a bit.

Be kind to yourself and look after yourself - and although it's not a great way to lose weight, it must feel like a great confidence boost to buy some new slimmer clothes to go with your new hair and figure.

Don't have any guilty thoughts. Your thread was one of the shittiest things I read in terms of catching a couple of cheaters while you were in your own house with one of them.

And try not to think on the other couple...from the outside everything might seem good, but once the trust is gone there's really not the same love and devotion there.

And who knows - maybe this time next year you'll be on that cruise. If not with a new love then maybe with your awesome mum!

I wish you the very best Christmas you could have - onwards and upwards.

Oh MissMarple

It’s ok to hit rock bottom - you have nothing to be ashamed of, and let’s face it, your life was turned upside down.

But look at you now! You sound so strong and just so fantastic. You should be so proud of yourself, just look at how far you’ve come x

Well done to you I have thought of you (can't tell you why as my life is very fully packed with a lot of people but I just remembered your story).

When you're Lowe and you're going to be... just remember you deserve better and he has ended your marriage not you...

This will heal in time and you may at some point smile of those times you loved him...

But please remember and i think this is the point that I couldn't forgive (would hate the thought of a sexual act) he has lied to you lied lied and more
Lies and when he was with this women he missed out on time with you and your daughters..

Good luck... join a gym go buy loads of new clothes and find yourself again xxx

And remember moving forward you deserve better than a low life that cheats and that they are men out there who don't cheat !

@MissMarpleMyArse you are incredible. I read your other threads, number 1 fan over here. Look after yourself x

well done OP

Great to hear the update OP. I've been thinking of you.
Well done on your strength and for holding things together while being a mum. Really glad to hear your mum is still being your mum too. 😘

I remember you well

You did so amazing

And are now so strong

MAybe staying inside and grieving for a short while is what you needed??

Well done your life will be so much better

You are (still) amazing op.

Good to hear an update OP. Well done for picking the pieces of your life up, what you will build on top will be amazing.

I'm in awe OP.

It was inevitable that rock bottom would come once the adrenaline wore off, but good on you for digging yourself out of it.

You are so strong. Keep going, it can only get better from now.

So glad you're on the up op.. I admire your strength & wish you only happiness for the future.

OW's husband may have not ended their marriage but I doubt he will ever forgive her & one day this will come back & bite her in the arse.. (karma & all that)!!

Sending you love

Well done is you it's all a process & glad u r getting up and on xx

Eye brows comment did make me chuckle

Good luck OP & remember if you get down abit again (which happens) you can get through it & each time it gets easier xx

Good for you OP for standing up for yourself and maintaining your self respect. Huge admiration from me. I really am rooting for you and I keep my fingers crossed that you have the best and most happy life ahead of you. Maybe join a gym, some clubs to meet new people? Go for it. Keep climbing. You can do it

Quite proud of you to be honest, you've done amazingly well you should be proud of yourself

I'm so happy to read this update OP and so glad, both for you on behalf of the other women here that this may have happened to more recently or may unfortunately do in the future, that you took the time to come back and tell us about the light at the end of that very dark tunnel. Onwards and upwards!

Glad to hear you are doing well MissMarple it's bound to have been difficult but I'm really pleased that you are feeling better

Love this! I remember your old thread and was hoping you would come back with a positive update and I'm so glad you have! So nice to read a post where someone has done what is right for themselves! Well done op x

Oh, how I wish I was as strong as you, OP

I remember your thread and am glad to see the positive update. Well done to your friend for saying it like it is! Stay strong - you've done the right thing in the long term - he's a shit bag!

If anyone was entitled to crawl into bed and hide for a while it was you. What your ex did was awful, and you're absolutely right to remember that HE has done this, not you.

I'm glad you're back on your feet and starting to get on with life and that your children are handling it well.

I'm amazed after the 'snap' from the OW's husband, upon finding out they had in fact gotten physical and lied about it, that he let her stay, but not your problem. Their marriage will never be the same.

Good luck to you, OP. You deserve happiness and a bright future with y our children.

You are doing absolutely amazingly considering this is so fresh. You really should give yourself a massive pat on the back and treat yourself! You are amazing :)

Great update. I remember your thread.

Size 12... I'm jealous. ☺

Brilliant news, you're bound to have good and bad days but hope it's now more up days

Well done OP. There will be good days and bad days but you did what was right for you. Well done. Keep posting! We are all here to support you x