How did you agree to get engaged?

[loverly]

Hi all,

So backstory:

Bf and I live together and have agreed marriage is in our future. I want to get engaged and I talked to him yesterday to explain why I want to...he has concerns over it being too early (before set number of years together) and before we've really hit the rocks (we don't argue and he's worried at some point we will). My perpective is that with two bereavements and a redundancy this year, if we were going to fall apart with problems we would have done so. Think the bereavement may be influencing how much I want to commit - sudden death makes you appreciate all the more.

So to reassure me - how did you get engaged?

To answer AnotherEmma's questions he is very emotionally intelligent - good at talking about all these kinds of things. His parents are divorced and remarried as are mine - I get on with them quite well. His mum and dad have both made comments about our future e.g. 'hopefully my future daughter in law' etc to extended relatives on his side. They are decent people as is my bf. :)

Just to clarify, the reason i'm not pressuring him is because I know he has a right to want to go a bit slower .

You both sound lovely
He doesn't sound the type to keep you waiting years and years. Maybe try and forget about it for a while and revisit the conversation in 6 months or so.

When we first got together I said "I'm going to marry the shit out of you" and then the same day his divorce came through I said "we going to argos for some rings then?" and that was that.

Short relationship, quite young, never argue. I think he's right to be cautious.

IMO, and I suspect there will be a slew of dissenting voices, couples who never argue... someone is not getting their needs met.

Just to say....thanks for all the advice....he just proposed! (I obviously said yes!)

That's fantastic news congratulations @loverly how did he propose??

Quiet moment on boxing day. With a ring he's borrowed from my mum until we choose our permanent ring next week :D

It was just us and it was perfect :D xx

My boyfriend proposed on Christmas day, he asked, I said yes no planning.