Should I invite my husband?

[MissDolly007]

Hi, so I started a new job and we are due to have our Christmas party soon. I’m having a dilema because partners are invited. My dh never invites me to social events - for example he is out two Fridays in a row over Christmas with friends and I am not invited and also work parties I’m not invited to either and this is a continuous thing - it doesn’t bother me like it used to - but now I have a party to go to he wants to come. I’d rather go and have some fun on my own, like he seems to. Problem is he knows he’s invited but I jus feel he should say ‘go on your on as I don’t expect you to come out with me’. What do you guys think? Ds also can’t be left and I would prefer dh look after him than get a babysitter but that is what he will suggest.

YWNBU to attend alone.

DH is being unreasonable.

Unless his socialising is almost all with work colleagues (or all men) it’s pretty crap to consistently exclude you.

I never socialise with DH’s work colleagues or vice versa, it’s not the done thing where we work.

Go on your own! You deserve it since he goes out and leaves you at home!

No.

Without even reading your post..

Suggest you will be buying new outfits for all 3 events. When he reminds you he is out alone 2 of them suggest you are out alone to the works do. He is a cf imo.

Be as rude as he is to you and tell him you prefer to go on your own he’s some cheek

I have never taken my partner to work Christmas parties. No one else does either

Nope! Go without him. Dh and I dont go to each others work things.

You don't ever get invited to his, so he can't come to yours.

He obviously likes to be let off the leash to enjoy these events on his own. So do you! YANBU at all!

Tell him you need to network as it's anew job.

Go alone....Your husband is a control freak...

Make sure to look particulaly hot too

Work parties are more fun without partners. No need to make polite convo with the dull wife of Dave from Accounts, who looks as if she'd rather be home in front of Netflix anyway.

Do not like work dos, his or mine, so we endure independently

Perhaps control freak too strong....What I mean is he can't have it all ways

I stand by the looking hit nd going alone part lol

Don’t invite him. When he asks why, tell him.

“You don’t invite me to your social events so you can fuck off.”

Cheeky hypocritical arse of a man.

Say no, go, have fun.

Thanks everyone - you have given me the power to stick to my guns 💪 xxx

Don't take him. Unless you're the queen, work do's should be just workmates....no significant others. Changes the dynamic completely IMHO. your situation is worse because he wants what you don't get....an invite. Tell him to FOTTFSOF

I would definitely go on my own. Let him have a night wondering how much you are enjoying yourself without him.

If everyone else has their partner you will stick out like a sore thumb. I think work parties are best without partners.

Do he never invites you...but wants to come to your work do? That's not a NO.

Sorry...I meant that's a NO.

Me and my husband are odd in that I would always rather that he came and vice versa . That's not to say that I never go out without him because I certainly do, but if there was a chance of going together I would always choose that, whatever the occasion.