Name changed but I post regularly, especially on this board and FWR.
Today at court, a judge finally, after over 5 years since the decree nisi, granted the decree absolute
It's the best Christmas present I could have had as I expected my now EX husband (oooh that feels good to write instead of stbexh) to keep dragging this out until the spring. I'd hoped to be divorced by my birthday next year but I've got an early Christmas present instead.
I have no doubt that he will continue to coercively control and emotionally abuse me via the children but I still feel a sense of freedom that I am no longer married to such a funt.
He is now free to marry his troll of a girlfriend (OW who has encouraged his ongoing abuse of me) and she is welcome to the odious malignant misogynistic prick.
I grieved for my marriage many years ago now and feel no regret, sadness or any other negative emotion over it any more. It is done. It's over. I divorced him. I took his power away.
This weekend I'm going to drink the champagne I've had chilling for quite some time, and relax knowing that I am free.
To all of you who are feeling sad about your marriages ending and the divorce process, please focus on the freedom at the end. I waited going on 6 years from the "I want a divorce please solicitor" to the decree absolute and it's been fantastic to finally get there today.
for all that are battling through the process, have just started, are finalising, or have finally come through it to the end.
And thanks to all of those who have helped me along the way 
Ooooh just realised I no longer have any in laws either! Hurrah!