Decree Absolute granted today

[FinallyFree18]

Name changed but I post regularly, especially on this board and FWR.

Today at court, a judge finally, after over 5 years since the decree nisi, granted the decree absolute

It's the best Christmas present I could have had as I expected my now EX husband (oooh that feels good to write instead of stbexh) to keep dragging this out until the spring. I'd hoped to be divorced by my birthday next year but I've got an early Christmas present instead.

I have no doubt that he will continue to coercively control and emotionally abuse me via the children but I still feel a sense of freedom that I am no longer married to such a funt.

He is now free to marry his troll of a girlfriend (OW who has encouraged his ongoing abuse of me) and she is welcome to the odious malignant misogynistic prick.

I grieved for my marriage many years ago now and feel no regret, sadness or any other negative emotion over it any more. It is done. It's over. I divorced him. I took his power away.

This weekend I'm going to drink the champagne I've had chilling for quite some time, and relax knowing that I am free.

To all of you who are feeling sad about your marriages ending and the divorce process, please focus on the freedom at the end. I waited going on 6 years from the "I want a divorce please solicitor" to the decree absolute and it's been fantastic to finally get there today.

for all that are battling through the process, have just started, are finalising, or have finally come through it to the end.

And thanks to all of those who have helped me along the way

Ooooh just realised I no longer have any in laws either! Hurrah!

Congratulations. Good luck on your journey going forwards.

Tonight my friend is coming round for champagne and we are going to burn 5 years of divorce paperwork in a celebration of freedom

All the paperwork apart from the official decrees are now cinders, champagne has been drunk, mince pies eaten and a good laugh had with my friend.
My life won't actually change as my ex husband has been gone nearly 6 lovely years but mentally and emotionally the difference is there. Last night I slept really well for the first time in years, with no bad dreams, and woke up feeling refreshed and positive. There's still a sadness, and I suppose there always will be that pang of emotion, but for me, my marriage was a huge mistake to an abusive man who abused me in every way possible and I'm glad to no longer be tied to him. We have two children together so I won't be fully free for another 8 years or so but the line has been drawn under the marriage now and I will probably never get married again and I'm happy with that. I prefer being alone and having my freedom. Relationships for me have always been abusive on some level and I'm not confident I can break that habit so I'd rather be single. Luckily I love being single and don't subscribe to the Hollywood romance myth. I like my life just fine and don't feel I'm missing anything by being single. There are so many positives to being single and being a single parent that it would take someone so amazing to change my life that I'm not sure they exist.
To all of you who are still waiting or still going through the shit: hold on, just hold on and breathe and know that there's an end in sight. It took me over 5 years to be free of the funt but now I am the feeling is fantastic.
to all

Congratulations OP. Welcome to the freedom of a single life. Sounds as though your ex has dragged out proceedings but you can now put that behind you. That's a huge gap in between the nisi and the absolute.