Should I tell STBXH that I'm going on a date?

[IndecisionFrisson]

NC as this is really outing but could do with some sensible MN advice.

Slight backstory - separated from husband at Christmas, but currently still under the same roof as neither of us have any savings or finances to allow us to move out, and unable to sell at the moment, plus it's easier for the kids - we have 2 DDs, 6 and 9, who we haven't said anything to.

It was my choice to separate, and he took it very badly at first, lots of emotional blackmail etc, and getting his family involved to bad mouth me. It's calmed down in recent months, and we're getting on fairly amicably.

I've been asked out on a date - do I tell him? So as not to drip feed, the date is with someone I knew way before I met OH, and recently connected since the separation.

Any advice welcome. I want to tell him so as to be honest, but am worried about how he'll react.

Hi IP: I left my ex nearly 2 years ago. He was also difficult and used emotional blackmail, threats, and could be quite nasty. I have been on mulptiple dates, had a few flings and been seeing someone for a while now. He has no idea about any of it. He however tells me every time there is a new sniff of a new woman and it doesn't bother me one bit and I watch it fizzle after a few dates usually. he is always very nice to me when he is seeing someone else, but I know that he won't act the same when I do tell him (because I will soon) about who I am currently seeing. We both new him prior to the split (nothing ever happened before) so i know he will kick off.

Anyway, I don't tell him because at this moment I am not sure what it is, its my business and I'd prefer him not to rain on my current happiness. I wouldn't tell your ex, unless you want it to go up a notch and be fully public, only then would I tell. At the moment its nice to be in a bubble without him or anyone else having their opinions on it.

Right before Christmas? No I really wouldn't

Right before Christmas? No I really wouldn't