Never getting married :(

[Whyarealltheusernamestaken]

After 15 years, I give in, I want it so much but it’s never going to happen...

Well if you're the higher earner then that's a sensible move.

Do you want to tell us some more about it?

No he earns far more and wouldn’t be bothered if I gave up work

If it's so Important to you and it's not him, why did you stay?

Because I love him, and I know he loves me

But then why not accept he doesn't want to get married?

True, I should accept that thank you

Why is he so against it?

I suppose I always wanted to call him husband, a pride thing maybe, my fault

How old are you op? If you don’t mind me asking?

Why is he so against it?

Because he earns more.

He doesn’t do religion therefore marriage

No seriously money isn’t a thing, he would give me everything

It now sounds stupid I want more, like a silly ring...

It won't be because he "doesn't do religion"... plenty of atheists get married.

No seriously money isn’t a thing, he would give me everything

Ah well in that case get yourselves to a solicitor who can sort that for you in the absence of getting married.

...You know you can get married without having a wedding, right?

It’s not going to happen, so i stay happy unmarried?

Why does he not want to get married. Have you asked him outright? Does his answer sound genuine, or an excuse? Do you have any children with him?

Sorry for all the questions, but I get the impression that you want advice, and no one can give that without the full story.

The full story isn’t for chat but thank you x

How about you just talk to him about it?
You know, like adults do - say that it's important to you and see what he says.
Or are you just going to sit waiting for him to guess?

It won't be because he "doesn't do religion"... plenty of atheists get married.
he dosnt have to just because lots of people do

Done that but will try yet again :)

Does he realise how upsetting this is for you.

Sometimes you just have to accept peoples decisions. Would he consider a commitment ceremony type thing?
If not then it's ok, you are happy and that's what is important.
You could change your last name to his, or just buy yourself a beautiful ring to wear.
I definitely think next special birthday you should throw yourself a big party and buy a pretty dress. Don't miss out on feeling special for a day.

No, but I joke about it too much....

confussssed: he dosnt have to just because lots of people do

I wasn't saying that he did have to. Just pointed out that "not doing religion" isn't a reason to not get married. Whatever the reason is, it's likely totally valid - but it won't be because of "not doing religion" (unless he knows that the OP only wants a big religious wedding ceremony and wouldn't accept a registry office marriage.)