13 year old won't go to bed

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He just refuses. He's not small.

I'll find him on the floor of his bedroom at 11pm doing random homework or faffing about. Refuses to go to bed and turn off the light.

Should I just leave him to it? He's always been pretty uncooperative and objectionable. I'm so tired of every sodding thing being a source of conflict opportunity for him.

Not sure it's great for a 13yr old boy to be sleeping in bed with his parent. It's not a great form of support.
It's too much of an extreme between the harsh punishments of taking the phone, not playing xbox for foreseable future and then being cuddled in bed by Mummy.
I would say no sleeping in your bed anymore. He needs to be treated like a 13yr old not a child and not an adult. It's confusing to him and making him revert to babyhood on one level.

Feel for you. Have a 13 year old DD who also refuses to sleep, latest is she's refusing to use her bed and spending the night ina cupboard She gets very abusive and attacks me if try to take phone sure tiredness is an issue as hear her awake at 2am. Really hard and no support from DH who gives in everytime. Brother is autistic, don't think she is - did the online assessments for ADHD and ASD and she came out as mild ADHD but no ASD. DH reckons its PMT but he also says he would veto any meds, I'm not keen but getting desperate.