So distressed!! Help

[mandy151]

Myself and husband separated in may. He moved out. Yesterday when I returned home from work he told me he had moved back in!! With all his bags in sitting room and is refusing to leave. I am so distressed. He says he has every right to be there as it is the family home. I had the house before I met him. 2 kids. He has gave me noting towards mortgage or bills in there six months. And has no job now. I took a student in 3 weeks ago as I had spare room and need help to meet mortgage repayments. But he is telling him today he has to go. That he is not welcome there anymore and it Hos house. I am at a loss..,.

Is your DH’s name on the deeds?

What an awful situation. Sorry I can't help but wanted to bump for more input from others who might know and to suggest you post in Legal or Divorce / Separation for advice? Good luck.

Assuming uk/England. It doesn't matter whose name is on the deeds or who paid for the house or how long they have lived there etc. if they are married either partner has a right to stay in the marital home unless there is a court order preventing them.

You need to see a solicitor immediately

Well the lodger has rights so you can't just kick him out.
Please contact Womens Aid and see if there is some sort of order you can put in place.
Call 101 and talk to the police about this.
How long have you been married?
If you can't get through to Womens Aid then Rights of women or Shelter may also be able to help.

Is his name on the mortgage?

Has this happened because he’s heard you’ve got someone else living there?

seek legal help asap OP

Why did he come back? Does he want to continue your relationship or did he not have anywhere else to go?

you need legal advice

Id say the fact you took a lodger in is the reason hes suddenly decided to move back in.

See a solicitor

Maybe the police to ask him to leave if you are not comfortable with him there

If he is not on the deeds, call the police. If he is, call a solicitor.

If it were me and it was my house, I would be calling on some big, strong friends to help him move his stuff back down the garden path for him. But that's just me.

You need to get legal advice.

You are married. It is his house too, unless you legally protected it.

How long have you been married. Do you have kids together?

Notwiththeseknees and if calls the police? How is that going to work for the OP, when they are married so it's half his house?

Yes that is the reason I'd say. But he was not giving me anything towards the mortgage so didn't have much choice. Either that or face the prospect of losing the house. He left six months ago and got a job in another city but was let go last week so decided to move back here. He has no money to rent a room somewhere and decided to come back and try Nd get the student out He is telling him to leave today as he has no right being in his house

Do you have any friends or relatives around who can put him out? You say he has no money but he's been working so surely has a little bit, enough for a b&b.

Get some legal help right away, please.

As others have said it’s his house too by virtue of the marriage. It does not matter if he is on the deeds or if he has paid the mortgage.

Unless there is violence, it is not a police matter. A lawyer will tell you the same but worth seeing to get the ball started on the divorce and financial settlement

If homeless and broke, I would move into a house I owned half of. So no surprises there.

As I said, that's just what I would do. I don't put up with that kind of shit. Possession is 9/10 of the law. I'd get him out & let him fight to get back in. Not the other way round. This is assuming he is not on the deeds.

He will be entitled to something from the house absolutely, but not necessarily to live in it. Offer to sell it when the kids get to 18 & he can have his 10% then. In the meantime, slingo el hooko!

Wait until he goes out and lock him out.

Call a local solicitor now. Call round all of them until somebody can give you advice. Is he on the deeds and is there any equity in the house? If he hasn’t paid anything for 6 months then those payments will have to come out of his share. You really should have seen a solicitor the day he moved out 😕

As he's played dirty, I would too. When he does go out (he will have to at some stage) get the locks changed pronto and leave his stuff outside. Don't allow him to eat any of your food. Then he will be forced out.

As I said, that's just what I would do. I don't put up with that kind of shit. Possession is 9/10 of the law. I'd get him out & let him fight to get back in. Not the other way round. This is assuming he is not on the deeds.

The deeds don't matter. They are married.

You might do this. But using violence or intimidation could end up with the husband perusing legal avenues that end up with op having to leave.

So you might do it. But it's very risky and could end up with him still in the house.

As tempting as it is to lock him out of the house, unfortunately he has a right to remain there. If you lock him out then it may cause you grief in the long term. Could you contact your mortgage company, explain the situation, and get a temporary payment 'holiday' so to speak? I would speak to CAB/Womens Aid straight away, and speak to a solicitor if you haven't done so already in terms of getting the divorce underway. There's not a lot you can do at the moment unfortunately - just play the long game.