So distressed!! Help

[mandy151]

Myself and husband separated in may. He moved out. Yesterday when I returned home from work he told me he had moved back in!! With all his bags in sitting room and is refusing to leave. I am so distressed. He says he has every right to be there as it is the family home. I had the house before I met him. 2 kids. He has gave me noting towards mortgage or bills in there six months. And has no job now. I took a student in 3 weeks ago as I had spare room and need help to meet mortgage repayments. But he is telling him today he has to go. That he is not welcome there anymore and it Hos house. I am at a loss..,.

Changing the locks won’t stop him from gaining entry. He is not being stupid about this. Violence and intimidation can be filmed very easily these days. The OP could end up in all sorts of poo.

She needs to see a lawyer.

I'd call the Police. He is an intruder in your home.

I would also call the police. He has no right at all to be there!

The lodger doesn't have rights. The husband does.
OP you need legal advice urgently, and to apply for a divorce ASAP.

@huskylover1 and @diamondlight the husband has every right in law to be there, sadly. He's not an intruder and the police won't remove him.

Thanks to everyone for replying. I applied for a protection order earlier and court sitting was due tomorrow. I followed advice from women's aid because of his bullying tactics. Threats of violence and intimidation. He begged me to not go down that road as I told him a barring would be the next step He agreed to go a couple of hours ago and is staying at a friends house. I can breath again!!!

Phew! Well done.

My god, well done @mandy151!
Hopefully he won't be messing with you again anytime soon!

Superb news OP

Well done OP, dealing with it the right way has sorted it. Still go through with the hearing if possible.

Well done - I'm so pleased for you! You stood up to him, he wasn't expecting that. Hope the court hearing goes well for you!

Great job OP!

Just make sure you’re safe, bullies don’t like losing their power.

Well done OP.
So glad WA could help.
You now need to change the locks.
I bet it was scary but you did it!

Thanks everyone for your support. Yeah it was hardest thing I've ever had to do Wasn't sure to go ahead with court hearing today but women's aid strongly advised me to go ahead with it as It wouldn't look good if I didn't show up. And mite not get it if I needed it again. As he could kick off again next week and this may be just an empty promise so keep peace for now

Update! I was refused protection order as there was no actual physical violence and the fact that in the 6 months we have separated I have not made any attempt to legally separate. But that's ok as he has left the house now anyway. The threat of that yesterday alone was enough to make him see Sense. Must see solicitor now and get that ball rolling..,

Good OP, tell him nothing, he won't know any different.

And get your locks changed!!

Phew. Now that he has left r u within yr rights to change the locks?