Broke bf is pissing me off

[sabrina1234]

I don't know if I'm being selfish but my broke boyfriend is really starting to get on my nerves. I don't mind helping out whenever he's in money trouble but I feel like he is really ungreatful. The other day he needed money because he is in overdraft, and had no money for food so without hesitation I transferred him 100 from my savings! He decided then to spend 250 on getting a company to write his essay for him, which really got on my nerves. He said he's been struggling with it but I said he's capable and smart enough to do it and he says I'm not supportive or understanding! When I'm there encouraging him that he can do it. It annoys me because first of all were both broke and second of all he throws it back in my face saying I don't understand him. If I didn't understand him or his situation why would I be helping him?! Instead he mentions his girl friend from uni and says "she would understand" and "doesn't my happiness matter to you" which was the biggest dig ever. Then the next day we didn't speak about it until he mentions "you haven't asked if I ate today" which I usually, and says don't worry I don't want nothing from you and you didn't ask because you don't want to get me food. And it's like well what did I just do for you yesterday?! And on the flipside he's saying that I need to apologise for calling him a user. Right now were not even speaking. I don't know if I'm overreacting or what to even do right now

Girlfriend from Uni?

He must be a very good fuck because otherwise I can't see what he brings to your life except being a right misery.
Dump him.

I dont understand why you are with him?! You can do much better. He is clearly using you and you are allowing it to happen!

He is a user.

And a liar.

And a cheater.

Is that really the kind of guy you want in life? Someone who cheats to get ahead? Someone who lies (cheating is lying) to get ahead? Someone who takes money from his girlfriend for food but then blows it on something else (something he shouldn't be buying anyway?) Someone who threatens to cheat on you to keep you in line?

Grow up. Find a spine. Find some self worth. Realise you deserve to be valued and respected. And that this guy isn't it.

Run while you can! (But get your money back if you can, too!). He sound lazy and entitled.

Oh OP... I had one like this. Called Brian. I don't' know why I wasted so much time and energy on him. He used all the same lines - exactly the same things - and I kicked myself for a long time after I finally saw sense and dumped him.

When he says to you, "Don't you care about my happiness?" - answer - "I do - as much as you care for mine".

Or don't bother, just tell the feckless slob that he's on his own and there's a reason why his other girlfriend isn't in the picture now too... it's not you, it's HIM. Twat.

Don't make the mistake of hanging on like I did - the relief I felt at finally telling the sponger to never call me again - and then hanging up on him - was immense.

Do it now. Spending £250 on somebody to write a report for him, as if he was Rockerfeller, knowing that you're also skint? You owe yourself better than this, get rid, right now.

So he's a cheat. He sponges money off you. He lies about why he needs the money. And he insults you by comparing you unfavorably with his ex. Hmm. You may want to rethink his "special person in your life" status.

There's a reason there's an ex GF. A really good reason OP. Why not join her in being an ex. You will have more fun and more money.

To all the posters saying, "Get your money back, OP"... she's not going to see a penny. He's broke - and entitled. That money is gone.

Best thing that OP can do is write it off as a 'not a penny more' thing and walk away. Cheap at half the price because if she stays, she'll be sucked in and ripped off even more.

RUN OP... Fast!

He's hilarious! Once your sides have stopped aching, dump him.

What a loser. Walk away!

LyingWitch is so right. It's worth writing off that money just to be rid of him. He has less than zero respect for the OP, she's just a source of emergency funds.

So a sponging user and a cheat then? Not seeing any redeeming features here. OP you can do better than that.

His cheating on university essay would have been enough for me to walk away.

Where did he get the other £150 from?!

I would end the relationship now and I would probably also ring the university and tell them he's buying essays.

OP
Do not stay with this man. He has no respect for you or your money.

Surely it's cheaper to write an essay yourself than to pay someone else to do it?!

Probably from his university girlfriend, or some other mug he is rinsing.

The fuck did I just read?
Bye boy.

Well, he sounds a catch...

This is quite upsetting to read. He is an absolute user and an entitled, selfish and irresponsible man child. Get rid before he erodes your savings and self respect further. You deserve so much better.

Loser and a user

£100 now is much cheaper than a divorce later. See it as a good investment in learning what not to accept. If he can't budget, can't write an essay himself and can't be grateful to you then he isn't worth hanging around with.

£250 on an essay! I didn’t know that was a thing. What happens when he has another essay to write? Will he be too lazy to do that one as well, because it’s laziness that’s making him payout, not difficulty.

He’s using you. Students average around £30 a week on food, so £100 would last three weeks. Don’t give him any more money. (No,doubt you already have). You won’t see it back.

Dump him, he’s not worth the emotional or financial stress.

It's depressing that so many women on MN list all the awful things their partners do and finish off with 'Am I overreacting?' or similar.

So many women with no self-esteem or who would rather be with anyone at all than be alone.

You are not overreacting, and what to do? Leave him.