Anyone else quite happy to never have a relationship (or sex) ever again?

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My husband left me almost 18 months ago, I have a primary school child and gave up having a frantic social life quite some time ago. I am perimenopausal and hardly ever had sex when I was with my ex anyway. I don’t need a man, probably shouldn’t have ever got married anyway and am just not interested in any kind of relationship. Do other people feel like this?

Yep!

Me. Quite happy having relationships with friends and family ( cos we all need love) but the sexual side? Too much bother and far too much much emotional upheaval for my taste.
But I think I'm Quite a lot older than you, so I wouldn't give up just yet. Lots f love

Me. Absolutely CBA with anything. Happy with my own company. Also got primary school age child, 46 years old so probably perimenopausal and would rather have an epsom salts bath and a good book or netflix than any faffing around.

Do miss cuddles tho, but thankfully DD likes them.

Same here! The thought of a relationship just seems like too much hard work for too little gain.

Yep, me. Once I'm rid of Stbxh, I'll be another crazy cat lady 😜. Men are just way too much trouble than they're worth.

I love the way that @Cawfee was so bright and affirmative in her post :)

Honestly OP you don't have to if you don't want to

No more relationships for me! I feel much more relaxed and free being single.

Yes. I absolutely love my life and I'm so lucky and feel very fulfilled. I can't imagine what a partner could possibly add.

I have absolutely no interest in sharing my life with another man - badly burned after starch had an 18 month affair. I’m enjoying being my own person, making my own decisions, parenting how I think is right, not having to compromise.

I don’t miss sex - can easily masturbate when I feel in the mood and there’s no wet patch afterwards.

But I do miss having that one person who is interested in me & to share funny things that happen. Everyone is busy with their lives and the kids are teenagers so not that interested in me. But these moments are fleeting and the positives of being single outweigh any negatives

I think I'll be happily single forevermore 😊

But I do miss having that one person who is interested in me & to share funny things that happen
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Yes I miss that too! not enough to enter into another relationship though......

Very content, no drama or compromising over everyday crap, it's just me, dc and our cat! Will never live with another man again and cba with dating, most men I meet come across as complete dickheads so refuse to waste my time.

Me. I have no desire whatsoever for a man in my life. I’ve had my share over the years - and probably someone else’s share too 😂. I love living on my own and just couldn’t be bothered with all the hassle. And as for sex. I’d rather go to bed with a good book and a mug of Horlicks.

Everything seems to be so much about ‘the right person will come along when you are rady’ But I am not looking for a ‘right person’ or any person. I am almost 50 and have had two long term serious relationships and frankly just can’t bear the thought of ever letting anyone into my life. It’s not that I am bitter or scarred, I just shudder at the thought of anyone being in my life. I do worry a bit about being sad and lonely when I am a pensioner though.

Glad it’s not just me!

YEP!! 20 years and counting. And I'm still in my forties. Just completely went off men after my DD was born and never been happier.

I'm not single but if I suddenly became so, I'd stay that way.

I am going to be one of those women that you don’t want to hear from but I genuinely thought that would be me....until bam! New man and new hope for future! I wasn’t looking mind and I definitely wouldn’t have bothered unless it was amazing (it is )

I think I would have said this a few months ago. I've not had sex for 2 years and enjoyed being my own master.

But recently a friend introduced me to a very lovely man and we've been going out - to the theatre, for cocktails etc. Nothings happened yet but I've started really enjoying having someone check in with how I'm doing, asking me to do nice things. He's just a very warm, nice grown up and good company. And that makes a difference from hanging out with my teens, colleagues and mostly women friends.

It is nice to have someone of a similar mindset to bounce things off - but that can easily be a friend, DC, relative, all of the above... doesn't have to be someone you share a bed with. You do you.

Absolutely! I've been single for about 10 years, and am a solo parent to a nearly 4 year old daughter, due with my second on Feb. Both conceived using an anonymous donor. Life is do great and we are so happy. The more threads I read on here about how awful some men are to their wives/partners they more I realise how glad I am to have done this without one. No interest in dating or sex!

Oh yes!

Snap! Single for the last 16 years. 2 kids ages 20 & 16. In the 16 years there’s been 2 guys that I went on 2 dates each with (one about 8 years ago & the other recently) and both times I just couldn’t be bothered. Too happy on my own. Have loads of friends & family but like being single.

I miss cuddles. Nit sex but the intimacy and the cuddles on the sofa. Or a hug.
Haven’t had those with H either for .... well years.

Also not single but I know that if DH and I split that I would remain single.

Yep. 46, young primary school age child, been single nearly 5yrs.

There is not one aspect of being in a relationship that I miss, and going to stay single and happy.