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Anyone else quite happy to never have a relationship (or sex) ever again?

35 replies

icouldbewrongicouldberight · 29/10/2018 20:08

My husband left me almost 18 months ago, I have a primary school child and gave up having a frantic social life quite some time ago. I am perimenopausal and hardly ever had sex when I was with my ex anyway. I don’t need a man, probably shouldn’t have ever got married anyway and am just not interested in any kind of relationship. Do other people feel like this?

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ladybird69 · 30/10/2018 21:24

Yep, divorced from a vile ex for 7 years, living in peace is wonderful and never having to go through the pain and heartache of a poisonous relationship is worth living alone.

WhoM0vedMyCheese · 30/10/2018 21:26

I was until I met my now DP. He's very different to my XH.

WhoM0vedMyCheese · 30/10/2018 21:28

I was 49 when I met him btw.

VioletCharlotte · 30/10/2018 21:30

Me. I've been single for 3 years now and never been happier. I can't imagine being with anyone now. My life's full and busy, I've got lots of friends and spend my free time doing what I want to do.

TipseyTorvey · 30/10/2018 21:55

Like pp am in a happy to loving relationship of 20 years with DH but if it ended for whatever reason I think I would never bother with a relationship again. DC and work and house and friendships are plenty. I may however consider a dog or two if the kids leave home one day....

CitrusFruit9 · 30/10/2018 22:14

Me! My very long marriage to vile exH gave me nothing except an ED and crap self-esteem. Being alone for the last five years is lovely though!

No desire to ever risk another relationship again.

HalloumiGus · 30/10/2018 22:53

I love my DH but if anything happened to him (God forbid) I don't think I would live with a man again. I'd still dabble with sex but I feel like the gulf between men and women seems to grow as you get older. Maybe we just can't be tolerating as much shit these days.

beachcomber243 · 30/10/2018 23:00

Been single for years now and very happy to remain so. The way I've been treated in the past means I will never put myself through the whole circus again, just not interested.
I enjoy the peace, I don't miss compromising. Life is good.

MrsTommyBanks · 30/10/2018 23:01

I honestly can't think of anything I miss from being in a relationship.
I've had enough sex to last a lifetime, and would hate to share my space with anyone except me dig. And possibly a cat in the future.

Storm4star · 30/10/2018 23:35

I always had a really high sex drive but lately I just can’t be assed. If I could meet a guy who just cared about my pleasure and didn’t want me to do anything for him in bed then I’d be fine! Haha. But I find men too demanding now, both in bed and out of it, and i’ve become selfish.

I don’t want to give any time to a man. I don’t want to make any sacrifices for a man. I don’t want to put myself out to please a man. So yes, I think I have to conclude that I’m happier without one!

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