Is it always wrong to call someone 'stupid'?

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I think it is.

If you asked someone if they were interested in getting to know you properly and they said 'of course I am stupid'

What would you think? To me it suggests abusive.

They are calling themselves stupid for wanting to get to know you?

I think you are MASSIVELY overthinking s very common phrase.

Just the same as of course i am silly? I dont think it means anything apart from yes, why wouldnt i want to get to know you?

No, I don’t think it suggests abusive.

Doesn’t suggest abusive to me at all. You’re overthinking.

"They are calling themselves stupid for wanting to get to know you?"

There's obviously supposed to be a comma before stupid. They're calling the other person stupid. (Not sure if you knew it and were just being awkward, but thought I'd explain anyway).

Yes to me but I learnt English as a second language. I find it really mean 😪

Abusive? Get a grip!

No. You’re seriously overthinking this.

Im not saying definitely abusive but potentially

My mum used to call me stupid a lot as a child and I remember a bf saying to me 'doesn't it bother you that your mum thinks is normal to call you stupid?'

Personally I would not say this phrase repeatedly to someone I just met. I don't say it to anyone.

Though I'm happy to be told I'm wrong.

You should have put the reason for your sensitivity in your op.

I wouldn't call my DP or child stupid.

I'd use a word like daft, and I'd use it about the action/decision rather than the person.

i.e. "That was a daft decision" not "You're stupid"

I don’t quite understand the scenario in your OP.

But I never called my Dc stupid, I would never call a young person I work with stupid.

I have said “that was a stupid thing to do” and then paid them the compliment of how they are smart enough to put it right.

A parent constantly calling their child stupid and other derogatory terms is coins to effect self esteem and self confidence.

It's name calling and I wouldn't like it. (This is assuming there is a comma before the word stupid.)

I know people who find that word really offensive. They were called it as a child. My Mum is one of them so I was always told never to use that word. I can understand why it would be upsetting to you.

Yes, sorry - there should be a comma of course (tired from work)

It is a common way of saying “obviously” or “its that simple”

Like in the famous phrase, or taken from it, “It’s the economy, Stupid.” Said to a bunch of very educated people, well politicians and spin doctors. The context was they were overthinking and over complicating what should have been a simple concept or message in a campaign. Getting bogged down in trivial issues or non issues.

So they said it repeatedly? That’s not good.

wouldnt bother me!

Don't be silly or don't be daft is what is use. Stupid is quite strong and aggressive in this instance imo.

Yes Musti. I thought so.

I can't think of a time I've ever used the word, coming from a background where "estupido" is very insulting.

(I had an abusive ex who tried using "stupid" to neg me when we first got together, but when he relialised I was too confident on that point, he switched to using "fat bitch" instead. )

I think stupid is okay to describe behaviour, but not to describe a person. I do realise that it is always context and person specific though.

The phrase you describe sounds fine to me op. A well known phrase that doesn't sound the least bit abusive.

A world of difference between what you describe and repeatedly being told that you're stupid. If it can be described as name calling in this instance, it's no worse than silly or daft imo.

Personally I would not say this phrase repeatedly to someone I just met. I don't say it to anyone.

But that doesn't mean that everyone who uses it, has an abusive intention.