Have you ever forgiven a cheater

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As the title.

Have you ever found your partner cheated, even though it's never acceptable, there were other factors that meant the partner was in a bad place mentally I.e family bereavement and went off the rails somewhat.

Have you ever been able to forgive and try again?

This is just what's happened to me

Once a cheat always a cheat.... if he can lie in bed with another woman and not even consider how it's going to hurt you then get rid!! Me and my DH would never do that to each other! If you want to go round sleeping with other people then break it of with your partner first.. you can't have your cake and eat it unfortunately

I agree with mama1dc if you want to sleep with others - break it off with your partner first. Secretly shagging other people shows a complete lack of respect.

Also, using bereavement as an excuse to get his dick wet elsewhere is pathetic.

It’s not just the sex, it’s the betrayal. Dinners out, hotel rooms together, chatting intimately probably about you at times and why it’s so wrong. Joint finances being spent on another woman. Half that money is yours, it’s stealing, special presents with half your money. Time stolen which should’ve been spent with you and the children. I’m sorry I couldn’t forgive, i’ve Been with my husband 28 years, if I found out he cheated I would honestly walk away, I couldn’t live a lie

Im currently in that situation. Husband had an emotional affair, including a few kisses with a girl from work.
I feel like I can forgive, but I dont know if I can trust.
We are still undecided if the marriage will continue. I lived away for a month and went back since the kids wanted to be home. We have now been living together for a week, its been nice. No romance, but nice having child care and someone to talk to in the evenings etc.

Time will tell what will happen.

To add, when this affair took place, I was in a bad place, he did not go out seeking an affair, it started as someone to talk to... he was also going through hard times at work.
He says its over now.

Don't let him use bereavement as an excuse. That's utter bullshit!

You were in a bad place, so he cheats on you . Nice to know he's got your back, eh?