do you flirt with other men/ women?

[BarbieLovesKen]

just wondering really - im madly in love with dp - getting married next year - our relationship is great but lately, I have become a bit of a flirt with other men - completely harmless - I would never dream of taking it any further - but is this normal? do you all do it?

i also LOVE flirting with dh at parties. but again (weirdly) not in a gruesomely sexual way, more Mitford sister than Roy Chubby Brown.

lololol at mrscarrot.

I'm quite sure I flirt without even realising it but I never touch other men, would be far too conscious of what their wife/my husband would think!

Jodie, I suppose I see flirting as the odd witty remark, winking back at someone, maybe holding their gaze a little too long than required.

I have to admit that before I met dp, I would never have the confidence to flirt - but since im with him, and know it would never go any further, I find myself doing it on a daily basis - I suppose I know im with him - does that make any sense - or do I sound like a lunatic?

Ahh yes, that is the key maybe, best flirting is very funny and vital and playful (Mrs Carrot the juice man has a way to go I think before he makes Mitford status, but I can see he's trying) and yet holds the promise of tears on a station platform.

Suddenly the whole world makes sense to me. Do you think the above is a decent enough definition? I get it.

definitely, barbie, because it's safe to..

I knew the juice man knew I was getting married because he brought my drink to the hairdressers when I was late for an appointment, and my veil was being fixed (trial run)

but I stilll went in the next time and flashed my ring, 'I'm married now' I said, a little too loudly.

I told him I got married in a brewery and he said he loved real ale and we talked about that for a bit too.

That does make sense. Is flirting then something you'd feel comfortable doing in front of dh's?

Oh no, I take it back. He's supreme, the Juice Man. I like your chats.

100x- He is very nice, not cheesy, and yes I agree it's playful and essential sometimes. Did I say he is Brazilian? The Acai berry is veery good for you..

Jodie- I think it's fine to do it in front of Dh, to a point, it's always very benign anyway.

Brazilian ah yes

Hi Barbie! Apparently I do it all the time. I am totally unaware of it. A colleague of mine overheard me on the phone to a total random stranger, and asked me if Iwas sleeping with him! Shades of Katie?

"i'm married now" she said, a little too loudly.

i don't think noel coward could've put it better. rofl. i think i love the juice man.

lol at Quattrocento!!

Jodie - No, I wouldnt do it in front of OH - I wouldnt like him to do it in front of me. that might be why I felt a tad guilty about it actually!

Aitch- at your lip chewing, maybe I'll start a juice man appreciation society, now a large vanilla sky or a big berry breeze...

My XP used to say that I flirted with women just as much as men, i used to say that is just my personality.

I am single now and know for definite that I flirt with people - gets me great tips over the bar

I work in the local pub btw!

Ah. You're an Experienced Flirt I think chorus line. We're just joshing about rather gauchely with the juice man.

Another thing I've been wondering is whether flirting is really just interaction, I think even the word flirt has connotations. Some flirting I do think is over the top and actually a come on and not flirting but when I think of "normal" flirting it seems just a part of human nature and the way our species is on a whole. I think I'm thinking too much for gone 11pm on a Saturday night lol.

Only time flirting is bad with other people is if you don't do it with your OH too.

I think you're doing frightfully well Jodie and I think you're quite right too. There's a book called On Tickling and Flirting or something, by a Very Important Analyst, and he says just about exactly that over about, well, 250 pages!

yes, but normal human interaction doesn't make your heart beat in your throat. that's great flirting.

No that's SEXUAL ATTRACTION. Is different.

there's general flirting, as described below, and flirting that makes your heart beat in your throat but will go nowhere because you're not in that game. but sometimes the chat gets a bit witty and heady and that's great flirting imo. but not sexual. just you're aware that you're on form and that you've got a 'click'. as my gran used to say. but that is, i concede, a one-on-one flirt rather than throwing a twinkle into a crowded room.

I'm sure I've read about reactions like heart beating faster being sexual attraction, could it be that on some level adding to the flirting that makes it much better? Imagine saying the same things to someone who was not interested in the flirt and would that still feel like it was great flirting?

I'm not going anyway with this by the way just quite enjoying a nice discussion.