do you flirt with other men/ women?

[BarbieLovesKen]

just wondering really - im madly in love with dp - getting married next year - our relationship is great but lately, I have become a bit of a flirt with other men - completely harmless - I would never dream of taking it any further - but is this normal? do you all do it?

I don't have any rl problems involving flirting I'm just curious.

Newsagents are top, absolutely, and women a close second. But the men, makes my skin crawl. I turn into Chloe from 24, I sort of grimace at them. Always have done.
Often I think it's just sort of embarassment for them, is sooo awful and you just think stoooop it, I'm not at all flattered.

it is your social duty to flirt on a daily basis

it is absolutely awful when you're doing a bit of hi-beam room panning flirtation and some bloke picks up on it and thinks you want a response. no response necessary, chaps. unless you're going to knock a few quid off my paper bill.

This perfectly amiable man, who I know, said at the school gates last week 'You look nice', I mean I think he thought he was being charming, but god I GLOWERED at the poor man.

And to be honest, as you're looking for a definition, I don't think that is even flirting. Jeez. I'd better hang on to dh.

good question Jodie. I was halfway through my earlier post when I realised that my own definition of flirting might be a bit off-kilter, and that I might be a flirt and not know it.

Yes aitch, or then they get funny because you're having such a lovely time flirting happily with their wives.

I don't think I've ever really thought about this before.

Let's have your definition lazyemma. Sounds promising.

i suppose there's harmless flirtation, where you just turn on a bit of a twinkle, and flirtation designed to really engage someone's (sexual) attention. i'm a harmless flirt, deffo. find purposeful flirtation a bit gruesome. to quote 100, jeez, i'd better hang on to dh.

Oh too true aitch. Actually I find there's a lot of flirting mileage to be had from teasing (of the witty remarks about them variety, rather than promise of slow strip sort, obviously).

it's a few posts below, 100times - basically, the kind of stuff that Tracey Cox advocates on Channel 4 programmes about how to get people to fancy you.

i also think, now that i'm considering it for the first time in my life, that it cheers me up to be flirty more than it cheers anyone else. i'm the kind of person who hates saying 'fine' in answer to 'how are you?' because it's so nothingy. i'd rather say 'excellent' and smile, cheer the place up a bit. if i tell you i'm fine i'm really fucked off.

Good to know. Do you touch people a lot, when you're flirting? I think I might. Oh glory.

Ah okay, have read lazyemma. NO! That's officially crazy flirting.

not cos i'm a liar, i shoudl say. just cos if you smile at people and engage with them you really notice that most people don't. and it's fun, like 100 says, to gently tickle people a bit. especially at parties.

i think i probably do a bit of the old throat touching (mine) and forearm stroking (theirs). [slagbag]

Oh yes...

Me too. I think I go for the upper arm actually but NEVER the legs, oh no.

God for a woman who won't let a perfectly innocuous man tell her she looks nice, I drive a hard bargain don't I?

I've only just got married but I think the odd flirt is harmless.

I always flirt with the juice man. We talk about Homes under the Hammer while he whizzes up the fruit.

Yes loads, somehow it doesn't seem to have the same effect on the opposite sex these days .

I probably just look like an old slapper now!

But you'd be appalled if he turned round from the juicer and made an inappropriate melon remark wouldn't you? I would. I'd probably fly at him with the kitchen knife.

legs is too Wogan. (sorry LL)
and ROFL at the new MrsCarrot joshing with the juice man while her whizzes.

oh yes, that would be much too obvious. He just says, 'there you go, have a large for the price of a small..'

God that sounds much worse written down