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ok this is embarrassing but I need to know [smile]

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cheltenhamgal · 16/06/2007 18:30

I have been dating a wonderful guy and it has got to the intimate stage........ well to put it politely he is very wide and quite a big guy what would be the best position for a)me to control the thrust and b) for him to go deep but not for me to feel uncomfortable ?

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emsiewill · 18/06/2007 23:18

His reaction does sound a bit over the top to me.

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cheltenhamgal · 18/06/2007 23:19

to be truthful I feel that the real issue for him is the distance. It is an hour and 15 mins from his to mine and I feel he is using that as an excuse. He wont even answer the fone to me

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cheltenhamgal · 18/06/2007 23:20

we have known each other since april but only met up at the end of May.

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Darciesmum · 18/06/2007 23:20

On top that way you get to control!

controlfreaky2 · 18/06/2007 23:22

his reaction is not reasonable. sounds like this wouldnt work for you if this is how he deals with a problem.

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cheltenhamgal · 18/06/2007 23:23

thats what I was thinking that he seems to have gone over the top

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cheltenhamgal · 18/06/2007 23:25

as soon as I realised I sent him a text saying that ie 0650 this morning. Maybe I should just let be and let him realise what he is missing lol

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easywriter · 18/06/2007 23:26

Good point ControlFreaky2.

I mean, there are a zillion solutions to the cash problem if indeed it was open to solutions.

I think it's very low of him not to talk to you or give you a real explanation.

LynetteScavo · 18/06/2007 23:53

What a wierd reaction! I'd just leave it if I were you and move on. Does he look after the 5 children alone? If so, getting back to you might not be high on his agenda. I'd leave the ball in his court and be prepared to move on.

I sounds a bit to me as though he got what he wanted and has move on.

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cheltenhamgal · 19/06/2007 07:04

and yes he does look after his five kids alone so would have alot on his plate. Not that I am making excuses for him though, I suppose I am just upset as he is the first guy I have trusted since my dd's father walked out 5 yrs ago
anyway the suns shining so hey ho

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HappyDaddy · 19/06/2007 12:27

I love that everyone on here is saying that their dh/dp is well hung. Apart from one saying lucky! lol

HappyDaddy · 19/06/2007 12:29

As for the latest development. I agree, it sounds as though he got his lay and thought of a crap excuse not to keep in contact.

Loser. Sounds like his dick is bigger than his brain.

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cheltenhamgal · 20/06/2007 14:00

well I know this will sound odd but we hadnt actually had full sex in the month we had been seeing each other just rather alot of snogging and petting lol so not sure it it would be that. I do however think that he has had problems in previous relationships and that he is automatically assuming that I am the same.

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cheltenhamgal · 20/06/2007 18:32

bump bump

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HappyDaddy · 20/06/2007 20:41

Then he's a twat.

Desiderata · 20/06/2007 20:49

Are you convinced he's not married?

mumto3girls · 20/06/2007 20:49

Aww.. thats awful that he dumped you...Maybe he was embarassed about asking for the cash and you sayig shall I post it mad him feel desperate...
Or maybe his kids have been having a had time with him dashing off to ee you evry now and then...
Either way I think he at least owes you a call to fully explain.

minorityrules · 20/06/2007 21:00

Sounds like he isn't as single as he made out

I dated someone that had excuses for why it was easier to be at mine all the time, found out after a few months it was because he had a long term partner

Could the time of the text be the problem? Maybe, if he isn't single the text came through when he wasn't alone?

I also think, even if single, one petrol money payment missing, isn't a good reason to go off on one! This early in a relationship you would have thought money wouldn't be so high on his agenda

elesbells · 21/06/2007 11:07

been reading your thread cg, how are you feeling today? you ok? have you heard from him? (you know the man with the smallest dick in britain!!)

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cheltenhamgal · 21/06/2007 20:07

hi there everyone, thanks for all your comments and concern. I honestly do believe that he is single, we have chatted and text at all different times and I had not reason to believe otherwise. I know he is having problems with one of his kids at school and they have been excluded. Plus I actually sent him the money as I got his address from the BT site and I havent even received a thankyou and I don't think there is any excuse for bad manners. What I do think is that he has had problems in past relationships but then why should he treat me like that just because he made wrong decisions in the past. I also do believe that at some point be it even in a couple of months time, he will contact me but I will have moved on by then so he will have missed out won't he ?

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cheltenhamgal · 21/06/2007 20:18

I feel stupid now for getting so upset about it all, I just couldn't understand how someone could go from being so intense with someone to totally cutting them out of their lives. I felt as if I had been dropped from a great height and then stamped on lol
but now thanks to being able to talk it out with you lot I feel 100% better and am off out on a very rare night out tomorrow night.

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cheltenhamgal · 21/06/2007 20:19

ooh and no I haven't heard from him

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