Fiance just told me he is leaving on Sunday

[harrypotternerd]

background - Fiance and I have been together three years and engaged since NYE. Wedding is supposed to be in April.
Tonight, out of what seemed like nowhere, he told me he is leaving me and going to live at his mum's on Sunday (she lives several hours away). The past few weeks we have been talking about plans for christmas with my DC (not his) and plans for the new year as well as wedding plans. I have been thinking about it the past few hours and cannot think of what went wrong, nothing has been different that I have noticed. He admitted he has been thinking of this for the past several weeks but 'hadn't decided'. He said he would leave on Sunday and he is leaving me $300 (which has made me feel even worse) and then asked me what he should say to my son who adores him. I told him I didn't know.
I just feel so broken. It is almost 1am where I am and I spoke to a friend for a little while but she is an optimist and seems to think 'he will come around, he loves you too much etc etc'. I can't sleep and just feel broken. I really don't know what to do or why he has chosen this.

Hi OP, I hope you're okay? What happened yesterday, has he gone? How is your child?
Thinking of you

hey everyone, sorry I haven't responded sooner. He is gone and to top it off I have to move and while looking at a house I burst into tears, told the real estate agent everything that has happened lately and she said she will talk to the owner and I got the house. Good news is health problem isnt that bad, fully functional and can be managed by medication only. So I am moving in less than a week. DC is okay, a few extra treats and being open about making it clear he can ask any question he needs and it is okay to feel sad or angry seems to have helped.

oh and my lovely friend who is a beauty therapist came over and did my nails and watched my DC while I had a long soak in the tub

I would not be surprised to find another woman involved somewhere

Wow. First post and OW is mentioned already. You know it is possible for a bloke to leave a relationship because he does not think it is working (for whatever reason) without the need for a replacement partner to immediately fill the void.

Well done OP.
So pleased you have a new place lined up.
It's gonna be a tough time but you sound strong.
Keep on keeping on!

I really dont think there is another woman involved. He said he needs to get his thoughts straight in his head before talking to me about the reasons. At the moment I am just focusing on my DC and myself. Luckily I have a wonderful group of friends who have been coming and helping me each day with packing, DC and just to chat.

* told him before he decided to go to bed that he needed to figure out what to say to DC.*

He doesn’t neee to figure out a damn thing I’m afraid.
These are your DC. You need to address this.

"He needs to get his thoughts straight in his head before talking to me about the reasons"

🤔

Sounds well dodgy, more like he needs time to get his story straight and/or pluck up the courage to tell you about the OW

Seriously, men very rarely leave without another woman lined up

I'd tell him to take his 'organised' thoughts and shove them up his arse.

@harrypotternerd the 'reason' doesn't even matter - when it comes down it he has pissed off & chucked all of you over. Good you have friends around you right now

Luckily I have a wonderful group of friends who have been coming and helping me each day with packing, DC and just to chat.

So glad to hear that. Friends like that are golden.

OP I’m so sorry this is happening to you and your son. So very happy to hear about your kind real estate agent and friends. Glad that your medical issue will respond to Rx. Sending you a virtual hug. I won’t post what I think of the man who walked out