I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I think I have to leave my babies father

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Okay, I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible haha
My boyfriend lives in Morocco... I've been living there for the previous 5 years. We've been together for the past 2 and a half years.
In the beginning of our relationship, I broke up with him because he was really controlling. He got angry at me for the clothes I wore or the people I spoke to. A couple of days after I broke up with him, he started shouting at me in the streets and then spat in my face in front of loads of people. He then started sending me threatening messages and creating fake accounts whenever I blocked him.
Anyway, I went back to the UK for a few months and all contact between us stopped.
I then came back to Morocco and after nearly 1 year, he sent me a message on my birthday. He called me and we started talking and after a few months formed a really strong friendship. He'd completely changed. He was open minded, so so caring and gentle. He was really lovely. I went through a difficult time and he supported me so so much. He was really amazing. My family all met him and absolutely adored him.
I then found out I was pregnant... it was completely unplanned. In the beginning I was really happy about it but he wanted to get an abortion.
I went to the UK to work and he stayed in Morocco and worked, meaning that we were apart for the first 5 months of the pregnancy. It was really difficult and we fought a lot... but I just let everything go because I thought that everything would be okay when we saw each other.
Also, in the time that I was in the UK he became really religious.
I went back to Morocco for 1 month and just got back to the UK... and now I don't know what to do. He reminds me of the person he was in the beginning of the relationship. He started saying that my clothes are 'too sexy'- loose palazzo style pants?? He then started saying that he wants me to be muslim and I should wear a hijab.
Then when I say that we can't be together, he changes his mind and says everything is my choice and he doesn't have a right to tell me what religion i should have.
If we're together, then it means that we'll have to get married for legal reasons in Morocco. This means that if I won't be able to take my daughter out of the country without his permission.
I really don't know what to do... If I choose not to be with him then I'm basically taking his daughter away from him because we'll be living in different countries and he can't visit the UK.
I don't want my daughter to hate me for taking her relationship with her father away from her...
I do love him, and he really is my best friend. I don't want to do something bad to him. I just don't know what to do.

Run op!!! Run far he is unhinged!!

Do NOT go back to Morocco. Under any circumstances

He's not your best friend.

Please don't shackle yourself and your daughter to him. If he's like this now, imagine what he'll be like once he knows you can't leave?

You do know what to do.
Get the fuck away and stay the fuck away.
I wouldn’t put him on the birth certificate or have anything to do with him.

And the fact that he can’t visit the UK? Good.
Never go back to Morocco until your DD is older and independent.

You will regret moving to Morocco. Eventually you will want to leave him, because he's abusive and unstable and this won't be healthy for you or your daughter. And you won't be able to take your daughter out of the country back home where you're safe!! Do you realise how dangerous it is to put yourself in a position where you need permission from your controlling husband to leave with your daughter?
Don't do it.

So a father who will control her, confine her within his strict religion's rules, force her to dress modestly, makes her wear a hajib , treats her as second class because she's female seems like a good plan? You want her to be treated how he has treated you? .Spat at on the street when she doesn't conform?

He didn't change to this open-minded best friend. He realised controlling ass wasn't working and pretended to change. Now you're pregnant and trapped he's reverting to the real him. And has the bloody cheek to blame it on his religion. Look at how quickly he 'changes' his mind when you threaten to leave. This is his character not his religion. He wouldn't chop and change if it was the religious doctrine he believed in.

Your child won't hate you for saving her from a life of abuse. She might hate you for forcing her into one though.

Stay in the UK and away from him.

Please please stay well away - if not for your sake, then for your daughter's sake.

RUN! if you go back you may lose her if he keeps her there, which by the sounds of him he would

Have you looked into medical care in Morocco? Education for girls? Your 'rights' as a wife? Property law? Who will have control of marrital finances? What happens to your job? How domestic violence is viewed? Etc etc etc.

This exact thing happened to a friend of mine. She stupidly married the prick and spent years trying to get her daughter out of Morocco. Don't do it. You'll be in for years of abuse and legal proceedings to protect your child from him.

Don’t do it. Stay in UK. I have a friend who will be stuck in UAE for next 6 years until her dd is 18 (at the earliest) in tiny apartment with philandering husband who is local and will not allow her to leave UAE with their daughter. She is making the most of it, has a good job and a network of friends and despite being adulterous, her H is not religiously conservative, is quite relaxed and not muttering about hijabs and not physically abusive (would never spit at her or berate her in public).

Your ex boyfriend sounds scary and you will not be enriching your dds life by going back to Morocco.

Do NOT go back OP!!!! Do you realise he could take your daughter and you’ll have years of international arguments before you get her back, if you get her back? It’s a patriarchal society and you won’t have a leg to stand on. Stay in the UK, please, for your daughter’s sake. Good luck xx

Deep down you know returning to him would be the worst thing you could do. Please stay as far away from him as possible. He's not changed and I've a horrible feeling he's far worse than you've already seen.

Well if you're living here and he is in Morocco you're not really together are you? It sounds like you know what you need to do. I second not putting him on the birth certificate. What you have described, the controlling, spitting, anger, the way treats women, probably isn't someone who should have official parental responsibility.

Absolutely do not marry him...

Stay in the UK.

How long were you actually in relationship with him for?

Stay in the UK
Don't even think about going back to him

Don't go back there!!

You have been well and truly suckered in by this man who saw you primarily as someone to both use and abuse (as well as a potential meal ticket). Such men hate women, all of them.

Do not marry this abusive man, the abusive man is who he really is. Do not return to Morocco under any circumstances. Do not put him on the birth certificate. Be a parent to your DD in the UK. You have rights and freedom here; two important things you will not get in Morocco.

Another voice agreeing with the don't go back!!! Stay in the uk

He's your best friend? Really? Your best one? You risk a life of abuse and potentially losing your daughter if you try to leave him at some point down the line. Stay in the UK OP and enjoy your daughter and the freedom you will both have here

Crikey, how the fuck can you call someone who has spat in your face in the street your best friend? That was him showing you who he really is and you would do well to pay attention to that.

Don't even think about going back to Morocco. Don't put him on the birth certificate.

Having travelled quite a bit and to many undeveloped countries in Africa, I hated every minute in Morocco. It's the only place I've ever been when I could actually sense the hatred of me as a Western, white Christian woman. This man sounds as if he has hatred towards you. Please don't go back