I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I think I have to leave my babies father

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Okay, I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible haha
My boyfriend lives in Morocco... I've been living there for the previous 5 years. We've been together for the past 2 and a half years.
In the beginning of our relationship, I broke up with him because he was really controlling. He got angry at me for the clothes I wore or the people I spoke to. A couple of days after I broke up with him, he started shouting at me in the streets and then spat in my face in front of loads of people. He then started sending me threatening messages and creating fake accounts whenever I blocked him.
Anyway, I went back to the UK for a few months and all contact between us stopped.
I then came back to Morocco and after nearly 1 year, he sent me a message on my birthday. He called me and we started talking and after a few months formed a really strong friendship. He'd completely changed. He was open minded, so so caring and gentle. He was really lovely. I went through a difficult time and he supported me so so much. He was really amazing. My family all met him and absolutely adored him.
I then found out I was pregnant... it was completely unplanned. In the beginning I was really happy about it but he wanted to get an abortion.
I went to the UK to work and he stayed in Morocco and worked, meaning that we were apart for the first 5 months of the pregnancy. It was really difficult and we fought a lot... but I just let everything go because I thought that everything would be okay when we saw each other.
Also, in the time that I was in the UK he became really religious.
I went back to Morocco for 1 month and just got back to the UK... and now I don't know what to do. He reminds me of the person he was in the beginning of the relationship. He started saying that my clothes are 'too sexy'- loose palazzo style pants?? He then started saying that he wants me to be muslim and I should wear a hijab.
Then when I say that we can't be together, he changes his mind and says everything is my choice and he doesn't have a right to tell me what religion i should have.
If we're together, then it means that we'll have to get married for legal reasons in Morocco. This means that if I won't be able to take my daughter out of the country without his permission.
I really don't know what to do... If I choose not to be with him then I'm basically taking his daughter away from him because we'll be living in different countries and he can't visit the UK.
I don't want my daughter to hate me for taking her relationship with her father away from her...
I do love him, and he really is my best friend. I don't want to do something bad to him. I just don't know what to do.

@7yo7yo I'd do the same. Don't put him on birth certificate and stay in the uk. You dc will understand when they are older. When they know about religions etc.

I wish I'd left my abusive prick of an ex, returned to the UK while pregnant and had nothing more to do with him. Would have saved a whole world of pain (and money!). I strongly suggest you have your baby in the UK, don't name him on the birth certificate and seek sound legal advice before letting him have anything to do with your baby.

Make sure you have the baby in UK and don’t go back to Morocco!!

Stay in the U.K. absolutely have the baby here, not there and don’t marry him if you want to be stuck there forever or have to leave your daughter behind.

If you have these concerns leave him now and don't list him as the father - it's almost impossible to get custody as a woman in Muslim majority countries. I know two people who have lost their children this way

Have your baby here in the UK and DO NOT marry him.

Watch the film "Not without my daughter". Please. Watch it and you will know what to do.

I really don't know what to do...
REALLY???
Re-read your post.
You DO know what to do.
This man will be a horrible influence on your DC.

What everyone else said.

Do not go back.
Have the baby here.
Do not put him on the birth certificate.

He is NOT your best friend. The part of him that you think is nice is an act. And it’s slipped a lot. I can’t believe you even gave him the time of day after the spitting incident.

He is showing you who he is. And what he is. And what your life would be like.

Be grateful. And be sensible.

Don't go back.
Leave him.
Stay in UK
DO NOT put his name on birth certificate.
Get counselling to help you understand why you forgave someone who has done what he did.

He got angry at me for the clothes I wore or the people I spoke to. A couple of days after I broke up with him, he started shouting at me in the streets and then spat in my face in front of loads of people. He then started sending me threatening messages and creating fake accounts whenever I blocked him.

DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN.

Have you spoken to anyone about him? Family of friends? I'd also contact Women's Aid or a councellor. You sound a bit vulnerable and I'm really concerned about you.

Do NOT go back to Morocco - a simple google search will show you horror stories of women in your exact situation who ended up having their kids taken whilst they were in the fathers home country and have NEVER seen them again.

You would be very stupid to go back to him. You would be picking to subject yourself and your daughter to a life of ownership by him, reliant on his kindness. Why on earth would you hand your RIGHTS over to a man, especially one who has previously treated you so badly?

Once you are trapped, he will revert to the controlling, abusive man he’s shown you twice.
You can see that he only switches to the considerate, respectful mask when you pull on your leash can’t you?
If your daughter cannot leave Morocco, and he had all parental rights, you are stuck, he can stop the play acting and put you back in your box. This sounds like a Take a Break feature in the making. The consequences for you are likely to be devastating emotionally and financially.
What life would your daughter be looking forward to being raised in your husband’s family as the daughter of a loose, English, infidel.
He is now conservatively religious. You fornicated by having unmarried sex and got pregnant (he also fornicated but it’s your job to safeguard your respective chastity innit?) Do you really think Mr Caring and Supportive is here to stay?
He is probably under a lot of pressure from his family to get his child, their grandchild into the fold to be brought up properly.
I’d be just as jumpy if you were taking about a conservative Christian fundamentalist family in the US. The same applies, it’s hard to leave the country with your children, and you will always be lacking. They will be determined to bring up your child in the true path and jump on any behaviour and traits that they think reflects her hell-bound mother.
Don’t do it! Your daughter will be better off without him. You can explain when she is old enough.

As I was reading your post, OP, I became more and more panicky you were in Morocco right now.

lightdrizzle is talking huge amounts of sense (as are others).

Please listen to them. He has shown you who is truly is - angry, controlling, abusive. Believe him.

You may love him but it's not enough.

Marrying someone from a different culture is bad/hard enough. Add in fundamentalist religion and it's hopeless. Add abuse and it's dangerous.

This is simply not going to work. Stay here. Don't visit the country with your child, high chance you won't leave with them.

You simply can't come against forces this strong. Love isn't enough.