Has anyone successfully stopped their partner's snoring?

[Jezebelz]

The situation is getting desperate! And earplugs do not work.

Jez
Are any of your rooms big enough to put in another bed?
Just that even separate matresses can make a big difference.
In some countries it is common to have two duvets - so you can each temperature control.

Also, is your bedroom cold enough at night?
Colder rooms aid sleep.

But actually sleeping separately but well will HELP your marriage, not harm it. Take turns as to who moves at lights out time

When you initially are diagnosed with sleep apnoea, you suspend your licence for a few weeks upon declaring to the DVLA. Once you get it under control with the cpap machine, the consultant writes to the dvla and the licence is restored. Cpap machines are amazing and it sounds like a weak aircon system as opposed to unpredictable loud snoring.

Laying here as my husband snores away next to me.
Correction hes just stopped now he's turned on his side.
Sorted of.
Tried separate beds but didn't do the marriage any good
Losing weight has helped.

Losing weight stopped my Dh snoring.

I’d moved into the spare room, as his snoring was dreadful. After about a month I’d had enough.
I wasn’t happy to sleep on my own and warned him that if he didn’t lose weight, who know what state our relationship would be in, in a years time.
That really did shock him and he lost weight over about 5 months.

We now both sleep so much better.

It's not sleep apnoea according to him - we've listened to lots of recordings of sleep apnoea sufferers and he says I sound nothing like that, just LOUD

Yet you haven't asked to be referred to a sleep clinic to find out the cause?

We got seperate bedrooms but in the end he went to the sleep clinic and got his CPAP. I could have kissed that machine.

Not giving up my bedroom though.

Tried separate beds but didn't do the marriage any good

Your husband is selfish.

We have separate rooms.

DH finally went to the GP and they took it really seriously. He is waiting for an appointment at the sleep apnea clinic now. I am hoping something will help.

I have always been more than happy to have my own room, but with the kids getting older we could really do with sharing and giving a room to one of them.

DH doesn't smoke, isn't overweight and doesn't drink much.

His could be related to his neck size.

*Tried separate beds but didn't do the marriage any good

Your husband is selfish*

No I think you miss understood
I missed falling sleep next him.
I missed waking up next to him.
I missed him being there if I woke in the night.
We are much closer just steeping the same bed.
( I snore too )

DH snores as bad on his side as his back. It isn't even and regular, it's like snorting (so loud he wakes himself up) after a complete break and then roof raising snoring, and then break for maybe 1 minute, then a massive snort again.

It's infuriating. I literally want to kill him some nights, it's like torture.

He mouth breathes - I have tested by pressing his lips together in his sleep - he doesn't breathe through his nose at all, just keeps trying to suck in through his mouth until I released his lips.

No spare room here to move to. He doesn't wake to the kids, or anything, so I don't like to wear ear plugs.

I missed falling sleep next him.
I missed waking up next to him.
I missed him being there if I woke in the night.
We are much closer just steeping the same bed.

That’s exactly how I felt. And why I told dh that if he didn’t lose weight, our relationship would really suffer.

Bit extreme but my friend’s Dh had laser surgery - Uvulopalatoplasty.

It isn't even and regular, it's like snorting (so loud he wakes himself up) after a complete break and then roof raising snoring, and then break for maybe 1 minute, then a massive snort again.

glitterfarts, this sound like classic apnoea. He isn't breathing during that 'break'. It will be putting a massive strain on his heart.

No I think you miss understood
I missed falling sleep next him.
I missed waking up next to him.
I missed him being there if I woke in the night
We are much closer just steeping the same bed.
( I snore too )

I didn't misunderstand, if I have misunderstood then you'll be able to tell me when he has that appointment to go get it sorted. If I was keeping my partner awake then I would go and try sort it out. It's lazy and selfish to expect your bed partner to just put up with it or bugger off to the spare room when you know they don't want to.

Sorry to jump in but please can I just ask as this thread caught my eye.
My partner snores a lot. Like really loud and constant throughout the night.
We have tried throat sprays, nose strips, a throat number, a vent that he puts in his nostrils. Finally we have decided nothing works and I've bought some decent earplugs for myself which drown him out.

Is sleep apnoea something that always happens with snoring? I'm worried now that we are trying to cover up and ignore the problem rather than deal with it. He's not overweight and is extremely healthy. Is it worth seeing the doctor or can snoring just be snoring?

I didn't misunderstand, if I have misunderstood then you'll be able to tell me when he has that appointment to go get it sorted. If I was keeping my partner awake then I would go and try sort it out. It's lazy and selfish to expect your bed partner to just put up with it or bugger off to the spare room when you know they don't want to.

Well ok.
Except my dh is hardworking working (10 hour physical shifts)
And kind.
He did try the nostril device - no change.
I got use to the snoring which has reduced since he lost weight

personally a machine would be worse (constant) as dp doesn't
Always snore.
I'm just really glad to be back sleeping in the same bed.
It has brought us closer.
We didn't stop sleeping together because of snoring though.
I had a bad back which was keeping me awake.
My dh, thinking of me, suggested I slept in the other room to see if I slept better - which I did slightly.
However looking back it was a mistake and wouldn't recommend it (Sleeping separately)
Just my humble opinion.

JellieEllie
What earplugs did you get that drown out the sound of snoring ?

personally a machine would be worse (constant) as dp doesn't Always snore

But you can’t hear the machine!

DH was anti machine, I thought it’d be intrusive but less intrusive than the snoring. As it was you can’t hear it and he always sleeps well and never snores. His opinions held him back and we’ve wasted years.

If the CPAP machine works it’s only because the person has sleep apnea. Sleep apnea carries multitude of risks.

Personally I would preempt the GP, ENT, sleep clinic route. It took so long to go down that route only for them to ask DH questions and tell him he didn’t meet the criteria for a sleep study. A year later we went private for the sleep study. Moderate sleep apnea is when there are 35+ incidents, my DH had 96!

An ENT will look through the sirways and if it’s a general overall restriction rather than obvious issue in one place will tell you to change lifestyle and change the dleeoing position. Then will advise the mounded mouthguards which you can buy cheaply online and just the same as He’d need to do it for at least a month as they aren’t comfortable and need to be got used to.

If that’s not working they’ll order a sleep study. Personally I’d move straight to hiring a CPAP for a week (the best £100 you’ll spend) and wait for the NHS to then catch up! You’ll know within the week if it works. Then when you referral to the ENT finally comes through you’ll have that information to make the rest of it go more quickly 🙂

britishsnoring.co.uk/cpap_rental.php

Sorry about the typos, I’m heading out but wanted to answer before I did

He went for an overnight sleep test, results showed he had around 130 apnoeas in a 6 hour period. They stopped the test (woke him up) when his oxygen levels were around 80% as they were worried he would just stop breathing. He's not overweight and doesn't smoke, so has a c-pap machine which is a god send for both him and me. He gets decent sleep and is not constantly exhausted from stopping breathing, and I get a decent sleep, lulled by the very soothing sound of the c-pap which sounds like a very quiet ceiling fan.

@gamerchick I'm under the GP for a multitude of other things, I'll add this to the list of things to ask them. I'm awaiting a neurology appointment (36 week wait), am being treated for my mental health and migraine, so I've a lot of my plate really.

I checked my antihistamine nasal spray last night and it was very out of date - it must have been an old one from my wash bag. I swapped it for a new one, and bingo, no snoring last night.

Thanks Joysmum.
I don't have a problem with a fan so will have to have a chat with DH about it.

One of my Ex's got this mouth guard thing and it helped massively.
But I agree, a GP appointment is the best place to start.
And weight loss if he is overweight.

Many people mention weight, since my DH has had his CPAP he’s lost over 4.5 stone.

There’s a theory that sleep helps regulate Leptin levels. My adH has never been able to lose weight before this so I suspect that good sleep is paramount in appetite and weight management.

@beanaseireann they are the Howard Lite Laser Lite ones. They are pink and yellow. The trick is to twist them into a tube insert into ear canal, hold your finger over the end until it's expanded and it blocks out 90% of noise. They are the only ones I've tried that have worked. The rest I paid fortunes for and wasted my money. These have been a lifesaver!

@glitterfarts
If he is a mouth breath snorer, it would be worth getting his nose checked out.
That is why I use a Francis nasal dilator - it keeps my nostrils wide open so I can breath through my nose and thus snore less.
DH confirms it works.

@Joysmum
Absolutely
sleep deprivation is directly linked to weight gain

And a definite shout out for BRITISH SNORING
their website is a fantastic resource
and their shop sells everything a snorer or their partner might need