Hi. I’m new here. I’m posting because i really need some advice about my crappy life! I will try keep this as short as poss.
I have been with my partner 8 years. We have a child together that has non verbal autism. About 3 months ago we went through a crappy time,he was spending a lot of the time in the pub and I was getting fed up as I was left on my own all the time. Well he left and stayed at his parents for a while which I didn’t want him to do as I wanted to sort things out instead of him running away but I thought a bit of time away might do us good. Well a few weeks into my partner staying with his parents there was a flirty message on my partners fb wall which my friend told me about so I asked him about it and of course it was all in my head and I was reading far to much into it. (I have never been the jealous type up untill this point)
Well after 6 weeks of him being away we sorted things out and he moved back in. I asked him again if anything went on and again he denied it so I left it.
Last week he came back after going out with a few drinks with his mates and for some reason I asked him again about this girl and he basically screwed up by admitting he they did message the once but only because she knows his parents and that’s all the message was about....yeah right! So I asked him if he’s really telling the truth then to show me his phone. Well of course he didn’t so I knew then. He just told me how much he loves me and all of that but I didn’t believe him and I asked for the truth from him as that is what I really wanted! He couldn’t and left!
So I messaged her and she messaged me back telling me everything,how it was just a one night stand and she knew about me but she didn’t care as she can sleep with who she likes and he messaged her asking her not to tell me but she thinks I should know.
Loads of things she was going on about really.
Well obviously he wants us to try again and he made a
Mistake as we weren’t getting on at the time and he’s so sorry all that crap! He will never speak to her again blah blah blah.
Thing is as stupid as this is I do still love him but I don’t know if I can get over this?? I’m so hurt as I wanted him to tell me the truth not her! I’ve only told one friend as I don’t want everyone to know. But she obviously hates him and I should never take him back which I do understand.
Would I be stupid to take him back ever??
Would like to hear what others would do please or any advice would be great!
Thank you for taking the time to read this!