Unsure how to react after comment from DP.

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On Saturday DP told me "you never dress like a woman."
There is slight context as I was offering to lend him something for Halloween as my last couple of costumes have been unisex - however he specified he was referring to my everyday wear, jeans and blouses etc.
I confronted him about it, he knows it upset me and has apologised, but I can't seem to get past it!

Generally I am a "top and jeans" person, but made an effort to wear dresses and skirts for much of the summer as I know DP prefers them. I also enjoyed dressing up in the bedroom, but after his comment I feel like stopping making an effort entirely, and don't know what to do to sort things out. I don't believe the comment was intended to criticise me per se, DP has a tendency to speak before he thinks, and he is in many ways lovely so I really want to get things back on track relationship wise.

If anyone has any advice it would be much appreciated. Thank you for reading!

It is NATURE for a man to find a woman in a skirt or dress attractive

I am not sure where in NATURE skirts and dresses appear- dolphins? Birds of paradise? I have found that men who bang on about the importance of dresses tend to be rather keen on wearing them themselves

What the fuck does dressing like a women mean? It doesn't mean anything, he just has some version of femininity in his head that he wants you to adhere to. That would drive me crazy tbh, I would wear whatever the hell you like and tell him to fuck off.

I think it is obvious I meant HUMAN nature. I think some people's understand of human sexual attraction leaves a lot to be desired! It's not like I am stating anything earth-shattering. I think most people would acknowledge that men find a woman in a lovely flowing dress or skirt attractive. Or at least, I would have thought most people would acknowledge that fact of human nature. Clearly not on here.

Men aren't genetically 'hard-wired' to find women in skirts and dresses attractive ffs. Human instinct and attraction existed long before skirts/dresses. Plus, if it's so hard-wired, how are there gay men? What you're talking about is fashion and current stereotypes, not inherent human traits.

What she said ^^

Op the answer to your dps statement that you never dress like a woman is yes you are correct I never dress like A woman I dress like this woman : me according to my own tastes comfort and suitability of season.
You are not a preconceived notion of what a woman should be or wear as we women are all individuals and are still women no matter our attire.
I'd start being wary of a partner who starts sentences with "you never" as the ending is rarely a compliment.

And being attracted to only a woman in a dress/skirt is all well and good if the woman you are with is into that style but if you choose someone who dresses to please themselves then that's that! Women aren't walking attraction objects!

Plus it's perfectly possible to look attractive in trousers, or very unattractive in a dress or skirt.

Many men will find many women attractive, and some clothing can enhance attractiveness. But there's a lot of personal taste involved, most of which is derived from socialisation more than nature. If I see someone in a dress, I might think they look fab, while the person next to me might think it doesn't suit them at all. We are all different.

I have found that men who bang on about the importance of dresses tend to be rather keen on wearing them themselves

PMSL

If DH said some bollocks like that he'd come home the next day to me dressed like this