If they had to, my parents couldn’t chose between whether they lost me/my sibling or each other.’

[Peppermint1qts]

Comment came up at a recent family dinner, shorty after a funeral, where a great uncle said the love for a child is always beyond that of the love for a husband/wife if you were forced to chose.

It’s all quite silly and hypothetical and I’m an adult now so not going to be precious about it! I don’t have children. But I do think my parents are probably unusual in their view

What do you think?

@Notwhoyouthink35 @OnlyTheDepthVaries
You both said exactly the same thing one after another 😳

I think there’s perhaps a difference between young children and adult children.

Parents should always put children first regardless of age. If the parent is older and children have life of their own it wouldn't change things in my eyes. Even if it meant being alone, any other option would still be putting yourself above your child. My MIL would chose her partner and she is seriously lacking in nuture and empathy.

@ravenmum that poor woman. One of my worst fears not being able to save both her children. Hope they find the little boy.

This made me laugh because my mum said a similar thing. We were talking about if we were drowning she save us or dad and she said she couldn't decide then said probably dad 😂😂 My dad was horrified and said he would choose us. Ended quite awkwardly.

As a mother- I would choose my DS no matter what. My DH knows this and feels the same. We love each other but our DS is everything to us.

@RPC28
@Notwhoyouthink35 @OnlyTheDepthVaries
You both said exactly the same thing one after another

No we didn't! Have another look - different sentence - different inference!

I think a sensible instinct is to protect whoever is most vulnerable. In the event of a fire I would expect to be rescued by my 18yo who does weight-lifting and has been known to lift his mates over his head. He otoh will die if he sits around waiting for me to lug his 6 foot 2 body down the stairs.

This is my order:
The kids both equal, couldn't choose
The cat
DH

I think whoever said she might save herself out of survival instinct might be nearest the truth if our dc are grown up. Our first basic reaction may be to get the hell out of danger. People who say they would definitely save their adult children have no idea if thats what they would actually do at the time. Maybe none of us are as brave as we think. Small dc are different.
My dh would definitely save me / grown dc and everyone else around but he is far braver than me.