Been seeing guy for few months now he chased like mad and up until week ago was messaging every morning, through out day, evening etc basically he could get enough of me.
Noticed last week that he slowed down, wouldn’t reply to messages for ages despite being online etc... casually asked he said stressed with work all cool
We spent last Saturday together all great and when I went home he messaged within 10 minutes of me leaving asking if I was ok, said he thought I seemed bit strange before I left.. I said sorry if I made him think that all fine and I was just concerned about time as I had sitter etc... all fine again and on the Sunday he turned up at my place of work to eat alone when I was on shift. That evening through texts he says that he feels like it’s always him starting sex etc & sex talk and wants me to led more, I say ok fine but for me it’s early days only slept together few times and we are still getting to know each other/likes etc. He says he won’t be the one starting anything again.
Monday messsging is again reduced and blunt one word answers
Get to my Tuesday and again he doesn’t contact me as usual I decide life’s to short for game play playing so message saying morning, exchange couple of messages and I ask if he would like to do something this week, he says yes! Arrange for Wednesday, again that evening he mentions how he wants me to lead more and start the sexing message
Again I tell him I’ve noticed he’s been off with me and very blunt and to me it’s early days and it’s all about sex and I’m actually feeling like he isn’t interested anymore
He says I’m totally wrong and he’s just worried he’s coming across like a sex pest and that’s why he’s backed off to let me lead etc and it’s not all just about sex and if he didn’t like me he wouldn’t lead me on.
So messages flowing yesterday and lots of sexy talk, she him last night, have sex etc I tried to bring up change in his behaviour over last week and he brushed it aside saying I’m reading to much into it. All was fine during the evening though to me he seemed bit offish when I left. And since then I haven’t heard anything.... which isn’t a problem only 21 hours but it’s the change in behaviour that’s bugging me... for last 2 months I’ve had good morning messages etc.
Another thing I have noticed is he asks nothing about me at all and doesn’t offer info about himself, if I ask then he answerers (I asked if he had siblings etc last night)
I should say he is quite a shy guy and a private person and definitely more confident over text than in person
But am I reading to much into this? I’m starting to think for him it’s just about sex even though he says it’s not!