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Lovely things your partner does

66 replies

2slicesoftoast · 06/10/2018 22:15

I'm having a tough time of it at the moment.
Came home from work to find a bunch of flowers and a bottle of wine on my doorstep. With an internet link in the envelope.
He made me a playlist on Spotify!
I'm sprawled over the sofa, looking at my flowers, sipping wine and sofa dancing to my play list!
Good guys are out there!

OP posts:
TheMagicTorch · 07/10/2018 08:54

Op how lovely is that! I'm currently sitting in bed with a coffee he brought me, while he's downstairs making breakfast. He's very sweet (sometimes. Other times hes a shit 😂😂)

Yogagirl123 · 07/10/2018 08:59

Brings me tea every morning, looks after me ( I have a disability ) cooks dinner from scratch every evening for the family. He always makes me laugh. He is a brilliant husband and dad.

Lazybonita · 07/10/2018 10:23

My DH brings me tea in bed at the weekend, he does the bins, puts washes on etc. I suffer from bad sinus problems and he will always sit and rub my head for me in the evenings in front of the tv. He used to be terrible with presents but over time he has got really great at making an effort and always gets me something lovely for my birthday etc. Recently one of my favourite authors had a new book out and he ordered it so it would arrive the day it was released. He has been known to come home with a bottle of champagne for me just because he knows I like it.

Milomonster · 07/10/2018 11:50

Lovely thread. Just a simple act of making a brew can bring so much warmth to a person’s heart.

MudCity · 07/10/2018 12:04

Simple things like taking the dog for a walk because he knows I am exhausted and letting me lie-in. Being able to rest means a lot to me.

Also doing most of the driving when we go out. Neither of us particularly like driving but he does the brunt of it and it really takes pressure off me.

Coming with me to buy a new car. We were there for ages and it really was not how either of us wanted to spend a weekend. He didn’t complain once (I did do the same for him though).

Giving me the odd lift to the station when I have a train to catch or picking me up on the return. I could easily drive myself, and often do, but it is lovely when he offers!

Thingsdogetbetter · 07/10/2018 12:16

Picked me up after my first exercise class on Saturday cos he knew my legs would be like jelly. Said he'd do it each week to help me motivate myself to go over the rainy winter months (I am a self confessed lazy cow! Lol). Breakfast in bed at weekend. Regular flowers for no reason (jokes the vase has been the most expensive thing he's ever bought.). Support, laughter, love, respect etc etc etc. Has been unending patient with my mh issues which have slowly but surely dissipated since being with him. Occasional mh blips get a listening supportive ear, cuddles and encouragement. He's fab!!!

Love this post. Think we can forget on mn that all men are not wankers. Women in bad relationships need to know there are great men out there and not to stay with a wanker in the fear that they're all the same as the shite the have. Most men rock.

ASundayWellSpent · 07/10/2018 12:32

My DH plugs my phone in to charge overnight when I forget... I work from my phone a lot so often fall asleep with it next to me, and wake up to find it plugged in and fully charged. Also brings me appletisers home from his work cos they're my favourite and you can't buy them where we live ❤ on a bigger scale, took a tough career choice to enable me to retrain and follow my dream job ❤ once I'm rich I told him he can be a trophy husband if he likes 😂😂

Bluelonerose · 07/10/2018 12:35

He always drops whatever he's doing to come rescue me from spiders Grin

Hideandgo · 07/10/2018 12:41

My DH keeps his negative opinions to himself and holds his tongue when I annoy him with little things. He would NEVER criticise how I do things even when I do them badly or not at all. He is absolutely never ever passive aggressive and would never stop me doing a single thing, even in a roundabout way.

(He brings me chocolate when he’s in the garage).

Kin2 · 07/10/2018 22:57

I’ve only known her a few months but she stands shoulder to shoulder with me in the face of some negativity we’ve received.

She remembered small things I’d mentioned when it was my birthday and even cooked me my favourite meal.

She’s incredibly open about how she feels, even though I know that may not have been easy for her, and she’s a fantastic communicator who is happy to talk about anything. Both vital ingredients, yet often overlooked.

But more than that, she simply makes me feel wonderful all the time I’m in her presence I cannot think of anything more lovely than that!!!

Stillme1 · 07/10/2018 23:28

My partner makes tea!
I have an illness which is horrible. My own family have been unpleasant about my health. It was bad enough DP knew when I had had a bad day. Then one day he was with me when I got ill. He stayed with me even though I said go home I wont be good company. I thought it would put him off me but he did not leave me. Strangely I am not as often struck with health problems now that he has seen that and not flinched.

flowerpower18 · 09/10/2018 14:17

I like this thread too....

He tells me he loves me everyday, makes me laugh all the time, does silly things to cheer me up, makes an effort to comment on my new hairstyle or if I have nice clothes on. Tells me I'm looking great from doing my gym work and I should keep it up! But the most important one for me is how special he makes me feel when we have sex/make love. He never just thinks of himself, he makes me feel really special :-)

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2slicesoftoast · 09/10/2018 17:10

Just reading your posts is making me amilr and feel fuzzy :-)
@Bluelonerose - I'm on spider duty as he loathes them!
Think I'll being giving my great bloke a very big hug and a cuppa when he walks in the door!

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Grumpbum123 · 09/10/2018 17:14

My DH has fully supported me during a mental (out of the blue) breakdown, driven me to hospital and supported me overdoses. Looked after the house, children and managed a high pressured job without any whinging. Visited me during a long stay in hospital. Sent me gifts into hospital, fought my corner and generally been amazing

Soopermum1 · 09/10/2018 17:27

Am currently rather poorly with a really bad cold, so am snoring quite significantly at the moment. DP said he likes the sound of my snoring as he knows I'm getting the sleep I badly need 😍

blueangel1 · 09/10/2018 17:32

My DP leaves silly notes for me to find, and if I send him to the shops for something mundane, like a loaf of bread, he will come back with something that's specifically for me as well. He makes me birthday cakes and is a dab hand at ice cream!

sprinkleofsunshine · 09/10/2018 17:35

He very often buys me flowers. He is not sloppy in the slightest but sent me a lovely quote thing he saw yesterday about marrying your best friend which made me cry.

Plus I'm pregnant at the moment, in first trimester and having fairly bad sickness and he has been a dream when I'm just slobbing around looking terrible and not lifting a finger. I have a decent excuse though I suppose.

Kemer2018 · 09/10/2018 17:37

Makes us a cuppa when he gets in from work.
Has good advice and a practical head.
Fixes my car for free
Dyes my roots
He's a little selfish and not that great at parenting but he's got his good points

Iamclearlyamug · 09/10/2018 17:46

Tells me he doesn't care what I look like because to him I am perfect 🙈🙈 also tells me it's perfectly ok to order dominos even though I'm meant to be on a diet 😂😂

PookieDo · 09/10/2018 17:54

These are all so lovely
I have only just begun dating a guy and at first I wasn’t sure of whether it had legs
He always offers to pick me up which I thought was nice
But this weekend just gone I had to go to work and he crept downstairs before I woke up made me a whole lunch and put a really cute note in it
No one has ever done that kind of lovely thing for me before 1. I nearly cried when I found it 2. I am giving him a chance for sure
Kindness is such a beautiful thing ❤️

mononoaware1907 · 09/10/2018 18:07

@Nolagerformethanks I have tears in my eyes, I swear❤️ What's your native language? Is it a hard one? Please tell me it is!Smile

mononoaware1907 · 09/10/2018 18:08

@Nolagerformethanks sorry that was for @NotUmbongoUnchained

flippyflapper · 09/10/2018 18:11

I am truly grateful to my husband who works long stupid hour shifts, but what ever time he gets up even 2am for work he will always empty the dishwasher.

If at home always makes tea, will always be the first one up with the kids if not worked a late shift.

He is currently doing ironing for me on his day off as I hate it.

Oh and if he is home he will always rub my back to sleep.
He is an amazing father and husband and will nearly do anything for anyone.

NotUmbongoUnchained · 09/10/2018 18:55

mono it’s Japanese. It really was awesome, considering English isn’t his first language either so this was 4th language to learn! Although it does it mean I can’t talk about him in secret to the kids anymore...

Thebluedog · 09/10/2018 19:42

I’m feeling poo today, my dh has come home with chocolate Smile

During the winter he always gets into bed first to warm up my side of the bed, when i get in, he will then go and brush his teeth etc

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