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What can this mean?

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Mumtobe99 · 02/10/2018 00:36

Was staying at my mums for a couple of days then I came back home.
Went upstairs to our room and saw a long black Samsung charger plugged in.. but we both have iPhones?
It had been there a couple of days and I took no notice of it but today when I saw it again I thought this is weird where did this come from?
So I asked my husband who’s charger is this he said he doesn’t know he has no idea how it got there .. weird ? Who else’s can it be?
I’m really confused..
I don’t want to stress too much I’m 15 weeks pregnant.
Shall I ask him again tomorow?? Or leave it ?

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HollowTalk · 02/10/2018 09:10

This would ring alarm bells, unless he's vaping?

LonginesPrime · 02/10/2018 09:10

Newhouse, that's what I thought, but on reflection the second phone is more plausible.

Perhaps he was charging a secret sex toy..

Mumtobeluc · 02/10/2018 09:15

The only realistic reason that isn't bad that I can think of is that he lost the charger he usually uses, maybe you share one like me and my partner do and he grabbed one from somewhere in the house that was an old charger for an old phone and it's just been left there. But he should remember that if that was the case unless he's a very forgetful person.

It does point more towards someone staying over. Bedroom isn't the kind of place you want to find a strangers charger...
Escort, someone he knows
Or
He has another phone to gamble,buy drugs, watch porn or anything else you might disagree with

MsHomeSlice · 02/10/2018 09:36

is it one with a separate wire?? where the plug has a USB hole on???

I use no end of different usb plugs, as my wire that goes into the phone has a USB-c end on it, so I keep that wire but plug it into any pluggy bit in the wall.

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Mumtobe99 · 02/10/2018 09:47

Wow didn’t expect so many messages!
Basically we live with his family but he’s parents are on Holliday and his brother sleeps next door but there’s no reason for him to come into our room it can’t be his.
His reaction was calm he was just like
“oh I don’t know I didn’t think anything of it I thought it was yours” etc etc..
I put the charger outside the room now thinking it might be his brothers or something he didn’t seem to care ..
haven’t said anything else to him yet because I know he will get angry and probably storm off so I’m gonna take it easy ..

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Mumtobe99 · 02/10/2018 09:47

Yes it just a cable where you plug it into an iPhone adapter

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Mumtobe99 · 02/10/2018 09:52

We don’t have a cleaner, he doesn’t have a work phone he doesn’t own a Samsung or anything that is Samsung
I haven’t seen any 2nd phone anywhere yet but I will start looking!

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Musti · 02/10/2018 09:58

That's different then! It may be his brother's or someone else's in the family and he's taken it by mistake. There are lots of phones and cables in my house and I sometimes pick the wrong one. Jeez

Chamomileteaplease · 02/10/2018 09:59

Ask the brother, surely?

MelonBuffet · 02/10/2018 10:01

Well regardless of the charger, the fact that he’ll get angry and storm off is going to have to change before the baby arrives. There will be a lot of extra stress and tiredness when there’s a newborn in the mix and if his way of dealing with anything he doesn’t like is to get angry and storm off then your relationship will suffer. How old is he?

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Mumtobe99 · 02/10/2018 10:06

Yes I will definitely ask his brother but it still doesn’t explain how it got into our room and plugged itself in! Just weird.
@Melonbuffet he’s 26

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Quigg · 02/10/2018 10:16

I think most of us are overreacting here. I understand the feelings quite alright but I think it's best if we tackle the issue from a psychological angle.

The lady in question is heavily pregnant and we got no idea if her husband is the violent type. We should put into consideration the well-being of the unborn child.

I'm my opinion, I would advise you keep calm and talk with him in a less aggressive way. Especially when he's in his best mood.

So keep the charger with you and wit till it's proper to ask him politely. It works best that way

hellsbellsmelons · 02/10/2018 10:19

Well he either has a 2nd phone or there was someone else in your room with him while you were away.
I'd be setting up a spycam in the bedroom.
Extreme yes! Necessary? Maybe not. But I'd need to know.

Iwantedtrianglesnotsquares · 02/10/2018 10:22

Do you have a cleaner? It could be theirs.

FiveStoryFire · 02/10/2018 10:44

What do YOU think OP? What's your gut telling you?

Something is bothering you enough about this to post on here about it.

Trust your instincts.

Unobtainable · 02/10/2018 10:54

Hmm... his parents are away. Did he and his brother have a party maybe and people crashed in your room?

The real red flag here though is that you daren't speak to him in case he gets angry and storms off. Not a sign of a healthy relationship at all.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 02/10/2018 10:57

My first thought would be that he has acquired a charger plug from somewhere - lifted it from work, or borrowed from his brother - and it was such a non event that it didn't register as a Samsung. I have loads of charging plugs and cables at home. It wouldn't occur to me that it could be evidence of DH hiding anything.

Emmageddon · 02/10/2018 11:00

A samsung charger also charges most e-readers and tablets - it's not necessarily a charger for a second phone. I'd start by asking the brother if it belongs to him. Could his brother have been entertaining a friend in your bedroom while you were away and DH was out of the house? Maybe your bedroom is more salubrious than his? That would be my first thought.

LonginesPrime · 02/10/2018 11:38

I'd be setting up a spycam in the bedroom.

Erm...

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Mumtobe99 · 02/10/2018 11:43

I cronfoted him and he started laughing I don’t know what that is sign of
I haven’t seen his brother yet so couldn’t ask him
I’m just soo confused

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Aquamarine1029 · 02/10/2018 11:47

Inappropriate laughter is a clear sign of deception. Your partner is up to something.

MelonBuffet · 02/10/2018 11:56

WTF? He started laughing?! That’s an odd reaction to you trying to find out what’s going on. Affronted, maybe. Defensive, sure. Reassuring you that he loves you and you don’t have anything to worry about - rare but ideal reaction to this scenario. Laughing is just weird!

OurMiracle1106 · 02/10/2018 11:58

I use a Samsung charger for my wireless headphones. However if my OH asked me why is there a Samsung charger I would say “for my headphones”

TroysMammy · 02/10/2018 13:46

Perhaps his brother only has 2 power points in his bedroom which were being used and just used a power point in your room because it was the nearest.

userblah · 02/10/2018 14:58

I use this to charge my old kindle.....