This is a bit of a weird one. I’ve with my boyfriend for five months and last night we went out for my friends birthday party. He hadn’t met this particular group of friends before. As soon as we walked in BF looked very anxious, pulled me to one side and said that he knew one of the women in the room as they’d previously met on a dating app before he knew me. He said it was about a year before we met and nothing happened beyond a few messages. I didn’t have a problem with that at all and we had a nice evening. I didn’t think anything of it.
However today my friend whose birthday it was called me to say that she had spoken to the dating app woman and apparently my boyfriend matched with her on the app a month before me and him met (so he lied about the timing), nothing really happened with them (none of my business if it did tbh) but he has messaged her a few times over the past couple of months. She said she thought I should know and sent me screen shots of the messages. They weren’t flirty, just ‘hey how are you? I’m bored at work, what you doing?’ kind of thing. My boyfriend has point black said this didn’t happen even though I’ve seen them!! He then keeps saying he doesn’t remember sending them and that this woman is clearly jealous that he’s with me and not her.
The problem is, I’ve had my suspicions that he’s not entirely trustworthy but there’s never been firm evidence just things like being overprotective with his phone, being on Facebook for hours every evening and hiding his friends list on there.
All things considered would it be wise to break this off? My gut feeling is he is not to be trusted.