we are engaged have a 7 month old son. when he was 6 weeks I found my partner gambled £2000 I only found out because I opened his statement as we were stupidly skint. I got him helped and I gained trust for him again, thankfully those days are over. But he is very materialistic and I am not. He has to have the latest everything. Even if it means putting us in financial difficulties. Tonight our son is poorly, he drove off randomly and turned his phone off. I kept calling and even rang his parents to see if they’d heard from him. 3 hours later he answered and said he’d driven 4 hours away and needed to “think” as he’s “not good enough for me”. He said there’s nothing he needs to tell me and he isn’t hinding anything. Next thing he drives back, I tell his family he’s safe. His dad then goes on to ask me when he will be paying the deposit he owes for a new car he’s reserved?’ I had no idea about. When he came home he insisted there was nothing he was hiding. I asked him how much money he had and if he can still half the rent. He then said he couldn’t pay it. I Asked 4 times why, and he said it was because he’d put it all on a deposit for a car he so badly wanted. I feel horrible but I’ve cried all night I just want a happy family. I’ve told him he needs to sort out the rent and get his car deposit money back or I’m leaving. Deep down it’s not the money side of it, I’m annoyed he’s not putting family first and he lies to me over things that should be discussed. He said he’d try and sort it but deep down I’m fed up of living with someone I can’t trust and he doesn’t get up with our son or seem to truly care. He’s so wrapped up in getting whatever he wants and running away from issues. What would you do? I want a happy family but I can’t trust him and I don’t want my baby growing up thinking he can have whatever he wants without working hard and being kind to others.