DH left - kids reacting badly - what should I do/expect?

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LO is 2 1/2 and has scratched me and constantly screaming at me. I was feeling quiet strong but this is killing me.

paddlechick - following an emotional couple of days trying to talk I have decided to try and emotionally withdraw, he then sees it as me getting on with my life and withdraws even further from me but I don't know if I really care any more, i'm just so drained now. You are right i can't change the way his mind works and it seems like he's out to get me it just that takes everything as a personal attack on him that i'm pushing and pushing for answers he can't give, not that I am hurting like hell too. I want him to react in a good way to how i am feeling - that's not going to happen now i don't think. I asked for a hug because I was upset last night and he just can't, it's times like this i absolutely hate the bastard for being so insensitive but he just sees it as me being demanding. I've got feelings ffs. He won't seek medical help as he has tried everything (the resources around us are pretty crap) he can do without risking losing his job which is the only steady thing in his life

hurtwife - I have been trying to remember what you said about giving his share of the love to the children and has helped enormously. I'm hoping this will get me through giving love to someone who doesn't love themselves only hurts me in the end

As regards the children - DD is calmer after seeing daddy - she won't know any different. DS seems to be OK he is just riding the storm I think and is a clever little boy, he is asking for lots of hugs and is getting lots of hugs and i'm focusing on this for today. x