So jealous of his ex wife

[LennyTheHamster]

I’ve been with DP a year. I’m also divorced. He has three DC, I’ve one. This is mental. Totally irrational and yet it’s annihilating me

He doesn’t make me jealous. He speaks about her in a neutral way, and very rarely. They have an amicable relationship

This is MY problem

I have no right to be jealous 🙁

They were together twenty years. She cheated and left. She’s ten years older than me. I’m in my twenties - and clearly need to grow the fuck up

I’m his first relationship since they broke up five years ago. She’s very happy with her partner of such years

I’m so jealous she carried his children when I never will. That he proposed to her. That they had everything

He has experienced everything with her first. He would have forgiven her for cheating

Their marriage and split up is none of my business. I’ve had to block her on FB to stop looking. She’s really pretty. I don’t want to go to restaurants they visited, holiday destinations they went to

I think of them planning their future, planning and conceiving their children. How happy he must have been. How we’ll never have that

He’s oblivious to this. I’m so fucking insecure

He adores me. I’ve no doubts of his love. Please tell me this gets easier and someday I’ll stop considering her as superwoman

I know I sound pathetic

And, so, 9 months after your post, how are things?

oh I didn't see that. Duh!

Blame Roberta. Though she did say she was late to the party!!

Can you imagine feeling like this with another man ? I had a BF once and was soooo jealous . He made me feel insecure for no good reason . In the end he dumped me and broke my heart . But never had such jealousy with other partners

Sometimes it’s the way it is .

You either try and fix this through having some therapy or you accept maybe something isn’t right for you on some level .

But stop hating on yourself .

@LennyTheHamster I know this is an old thread but I wonder how you are now?

How long have you felt like this OP?

My DH wasn’t married before me but he had two children with another woman before we met. I find it hard sometimes to rationalise that he had children with her etc. In his case he says they weren’t planned but he still lived with this woman and procreated with her. It bothers me sometimes but it’s rare and certainly doesn’t take over. Do you feel like this a lot or are you just having a bad day / week?

If neither of you want another child then try not to take it personally that he doesn’t want more. He has three. But you’ve also only been together for a year so things could change.

Just saw this is a really old thread 🙄

My ex begged me not to leave and wouldnt have left first. Doesnt mean he isnt happier with his partner now. Shes far better suited to him than me. He just couldn't see how unhappy we were at the time. He does now and is happier now than he ever was with me.

My partner wouldve forgiven his cheating partner too but all of that again is in the initial shock phase. We have a far better life together and I imagine she does with her new partner too.