Annulment

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Is there an easy way to get one? I've been married a week and have changed my mind, basically.

None of the grounds on the government website fit. Basically the wedding itself highlighted some things I don't like about our relationship.

Slightly annoyed that I appear to be locked into this marriage for a year at least.

Been together eight years and have a child together. It's very sad, but there you have it.

Some of what people have written is pretty harsh.

I'm married a year and have been sadly regretting it since Day 1...I've stayed in it for some of the reasons ye list here. If I weren't married, i'd probably have broken up with him by now.

Good luck, OP. I would recommend talking to your husband. I've had numerous conversations with my husband and told him exactly how I feel. I would say it's important he not be blindsided. No point in that.

If there is no way of staying and sorting it out then:

Call round some solicitors. Lots do a free hour for you to explain your situation. Offer advice then let you decide if you need them/ want them to assist you.

I called a few of local ones, saw a few, decided on one if I needed it.

A good one will tell you if you don't need it but from what you've said you definitely do.

Take a list of questions you need answers to.

Good luck

Could you get a legal separation? Before I divorced my ex , we had a document drawn up to say that all our finances were separate and we no longer had a right to each other's assets.

I was going to suggest what Oddcat said. Glad I read the whole thread.

Though if you agreed to marry to please someone else, you may have grounds for annulment.

Bottom line is, see a solicitor and tell him/her every single detail to see what can be done.

You will need to talk about visitation and custody of the child too, and child support.

From what I understand, the relationship is dead beyond all hope of redemption?

Do you have the money to rent a place for yourself and your son?

www.attwatersjamesonhill.co.uk/blog/2016/11/weve-been-married-less-than-a-year-can-we-get-a-divorce

Mistakes happen for all sorts of reasons.

I could only suggest seeing a solicitor, find out the quickest and least painful way to separate.

I wish you all the best.

Legal advice and a separation agreement, thank you to those who have been helpful.

to those who haven't. Hope you enjoyed your little digs- get a hobby in future please.

As someone who is about to get married in 3 weeks ... what red flags should I be looking for on the wedding day that I haven't seen already?

Best of luck. I admire your bravery

junkmum
You still have to get divorced so there is no point.
I dont understand what purpose it serves

If you get an annulment you don't need a divorce - an annulment ends the marriage effectively; it actually says it never happened. They are very hard to get; I only know one couple who got an annulment and that was because he was gay.

I got a marriage annulled 4 weeks after the wedding due to 'non consummation'

Sorry I can see OP says non of these apply to her I'm just saying what was down on my paperwork

@Lauren83

Did ye both agree on that? Thanks.

I bet we all have been through an experience where we wished we'd had a crystal ball - sometimes a single event can enlighten you to want change.

OP, I have no experience of separation and divorce but have had friends who used the 1 hour free from solicitors to gain initial advice and assess which solicitor would provide the best service.
I had a friend who managed to sort out her divorce relatively smoothly by initiating a separation agreement. In your situation I'd start there as it can draw a line after which your finances are considered your responsibility and gives your OH a reciprocal right.
Good luck, and I hope it works out well.

@Isitovernow yes we both put the same, it was a tough time but we should never have got married, I had been ill for a couple of years and found out I couldn't have children and we had been engaged a while and just got carried away planning a wedding, we did only have a small registry office with garden party reception and no photographer or cake etc so luckily it wasn't a huge expense. We both went on to meet people much more suited to us and both very happy now

Instead of focusing on the terminology of it, see a solicitor and get some advice about the best possible way of ending the relationship and financial split - be it legal separation, annulment or divorce.

@Lauren83

Thanks for the reply. I appreciate it. Myself & DH had a huge wedding, spent a good chunk of our savings on it all & I can't even look at the photographs. All I know is it was a mistake but he doesn't agree.

OP, since it's such early days you may be able to get an annulment...a friend of a friend's got one. I don't know how hit she said it being so soon helped ...

What was it that you saw at your wedding that made you realise it was a mistake ?

*but

@Isitovernow I'm so sorry you are going through this, it was my choice to end ours and it was horrible for a while but the alternative would have been us both being unhappy for years, too many people stay in something that isn't right as they are too scared to make the break. I wish it hadn't happened how it did but the alternative would have been worse all round

I split from my violent husband 4 years ago, and instead of a divorce I am having to go for a void/ voidable marriage (married under 18, with parental permission signed by those who no longer had it) believe me it is a right legal headache, and more expensive and I don’t recommend it.

A year will pass quickly. It is unlikely you would get legal resolution before that anyway.

What happened?

I nearly walked out of the register office waiting to marry exH. My mother talked me into staying - found out later she had as many red flags waving above her head as the Ex.

Sometimes marriages go ahead that aren't in the best interests of one of the parties or both.

Best of luck, OP. Separation sounds like a possibility.

I knew on my honeymoon I'd made a terrible mistake.
One year later and we divorced.