So I left exh 18 months ago. Quickly met a guy. He was great and also just separated. We both fell into a trap of clinging on to eachother and got to serious too quick. We ended up splitting.
We stayed friends, because he is the relative of a friend of mine and saw him frequently. We always flirted but during this time he was a really good friend. Always there for me, made sure I was ok but nothing physical happening.
Anyway we were friends until April this year ( So for about 6 months) when we started a FWB situation. I was scared we would end up serious and it going tits up again. The FWB has been great. Something fun for me, but not too serious. It was what I needed. To have someone to spend time with but not obligated to. The sex is great and we have carried on being great friends.
However, looking back over the last few weeks we seem to have fallen into a weird situation. We now see eachother everyday. Even if it's just him popping into way on his way to/from work. If my son is with his dad we stay at eachother without fail. We do all our shopping together, spend all free time together, spend every weekend together. He bought me a few gifts lately, including a bracelet. Nothing expensive but meaningful presents. I stayed at his for a few weeks when I was waiting to move into my new house. He helped me decorate my house, move all my stuff in, secured the garden for my son, helped pick furniture and helped me build it etc
I have spent all weekend with him and we ended up spending all this morning cuddled up on his sofa before going food shopping. We found ourselves planning what meals we will eat. What we want for lunches for work etc. However he never stays when my son is here, 4 nights a week. He works nights and comes over before He starts but after my son is in bed, stays for a bit then goes to work. He will make my lunch for work while here or make us something to eat or i will sort the food. We watch some TV or just sit and talk. He texts me every morning and every nightand several times during the day. He likes to know I am home safe, if I am driving home from work etc
On Friday night I was on my phone talking to a guy from work. About work, nothing more, and he asked if it was his relative who I am friends with. I said no it's was Bob (not real name) from work. He asked if I fancied him and then added that he shouldn't have asked. That it was nothing to do with him and he was sorry. But he looked proper gutted. I told him I didn't fancy this man and changed the subject.
I really like him but am starting to feel confused about what we are. I was worried about FWB, because I was worried I would get emotionally involved and now I feel I am. But for a few months it was great.
He is a great guy. He knew something has been bothering me recently and he kept asking me to talk to him, reassuring me I could tell him anything and he wanted to support me. Whats bothering me is that I want to tell him that I can't do the FWB anymore.
I don't want to give him the 'all of nothing speech' because I think it's unfair on him. I can't give him an ultimatum.
This isnt how FWB act, is it? I need to walk away don't I?
I don't want to lose him, but I don't want FWB anymore. I just can't see a way out that means I can keep him in my life.
I have fucked up massively. Shouldn't have done the FWB thing and won't ever do it again. For the first time in a long time I was happy and fucked this up for myself.
I am doing the right thing, by just telling him it's done and cutting contact?