Hi I didn't really want to put this on the AIBU section as I know most would scream "affair" every time I've mentioned my husbands job in the past no matter what I'm asking that's all I hear.
Anyway this will sound very OTT and I don't think anyone can actually answer me however. My husband was with the Royal Marines for 20 years. He's retired now and for years said he would work nights in a factory while getting his pension. It wouldn't quite be enough to live on. I told him that he could not do that job as it would not be enough for him and should do private security in the Middle East. Good money too however he said he's had enough of putting his life in danger. (Hope he would have said it's because he would want to spend more time with me and dds 😜)
Well now he said he has been asked to still do "jobs" for the marines. Although won't tell me what he's doing. To be honest I never asked before so don't really want to start now as it doesn't really matter where he is ( when training of course/ war and tours are totally different). He wasn't really keen on FB and never had his own but now he's said I shouldn't be on it so much as you don't know who's watching. He's said I put too much crap on about my life. He's asked me, his mum and brothers not to put photos of him on Facebook. He's away 2-4 months at a time whereas before although away a lot used to come home most weekends. I know people will scream affair but unless you've lived this life you don't know. We had a holiday booked in August and he said we couldn't go as the place we were going to isn't the right time to be going but then said we could go a few months later. He has never saved money and has been crap at paying bills. He's got a couple of thousand saved at the min as I transfer it to his account from the joint and I can see it's there he has said we can't use that towards fixing the car as he needs two months wages kept safe. I'm just worried that he's doing something even more dangerous than his last job. That was horrendous enough but at least I knew. Obviously some men are doing jobs we have no clue about who have to keep it secret. I can't ask him or anyone and I know no one on here can help on here.
If I get lots of affair replies I will ha e to see if I can get this deleted as I've had that on here god years. As of yet over the past 15 years I've not had any concerns.