When you shop someone to social services...

[BennysBiscuits]

How much do social services come back & tell you about what they found?

I am sadly the shoppee not the shopper.

It's not like for like scenario as I've never shopped a parent to SS but I did report concerns for a Vulnerable adult.

The answer is nothing, they took all the info I had but when I asked for an update on whether this person was OK were unable to give me any updates/outcome due to Privacy and Data Protection Laws

Unless you have PR for the child in question they cant give feedback that way. If you have PR they can give limited feedback on childs welfare.

Nothing. I was reported a malicious referral i was told nothing.

sorry I read it wrong. you can ask for a copy of the details of the referral but they won't tell you who reported.

What's going on? Is everything ok?

:-( hope you're ok op and it's not too serious -

Equally I also hope you're offered any help that you may need etc xxx

I was asked if I wanted to know what they had found out and tbh I wasn't sure if that wasn't a bit of a trick question eg was I being too nosey or there was malicious intent.
There wasn't of course but I didn't want an update just for them to be offered some help and things to improve.

It was a malicious report. Creeper8 My experience was different to yours in that I've been told who made the report but not the details of it. That said, there were no recommendations made and they (ss) were happy with how they found us.

wannabe I find it upsetting that they asked if you wanted to hear information. What about privacy? That can't be right surely?

That sounds weird that they told you who reported you. Why not ask them if they will report back to the person making the malicious claim? Although what are you worried about (I sense there is worry here)? If there was nothing wrong and they tell the person who shopped you that, then no biggie, surely?

This is outing, but it was my narc dm I am nc with. I hate her. I want her to fuck off so I never hear from her again. The irony is she was extremely abusive herself in her own time.

My sister reported a relative (deliberately vague). She didn’t get any details after she did it. She rang for some follow up and the social worker said she couldn’t tell her anything.

My daughters father reports me every 6 months or so, as far as I can gather nothing and he has PR but no contact.

It is shit though and I sympathise.

I have reported a family member before and didn't get any feed back.

They shouldn’t at all. They take details and then proceed but they wouldn’t give any info back to the reporter unless it’s a professional referral. It’s torally breaching the service user’s confidentiality otherwise! If you’ve had your info passed onto the reporter you should definitely make a complaint.

@BennysBiscuits will message you.

Sorry my brain isn't working.....
There are specific reasons that they offered feedback and I still remain convinced it was a 'test' to

..... gah my phone is now being temperamental!
The family I spoke about weren't family they were neighbours and there were very serious concerns that they needed an ear and eye for. Think huge family and all on child protection.
I didn't ask for feedback as I could hear what was going on.
I am sorry about your mother. Mine wasn't malicious it was real worry and concern.

Mine wouldnt tell me. said it was anonymous. maybe yours didnt stay anonymous? luckily it was closed but it was 3 months of worry

I was reported and my HV told me what the accusations were when she came to visit me. She came to visit me to tell me that she told SS it was a malicious report in her eyes. So I had a letter from SS and a visit from HV but nothing else and the reporter did not get told anything either

Christ. some people are a bit odd. Why on earth would anyone go around making malicious reports to social services ??

Mine was a group of neighbours who didn’t like our DIY or car parking in their cul de sac. I’ve driven back round there in recent years and realised what a shit hole it is. So they were offended a young family moved in to a gross area and tried to make their house nicer. Crime of the century

Christ. some people are a bit odd. Why on earth would anyone go around making malicious reports to social services ??

I often wonder this, but I think some people are just so full of spite, they dont realise they are taking precious resources from children who genuinely need their help. It's an awful thing to do.

Oh I have a list leading up to the reporting incident. All to get rid of us. It was very spiteful.

We bought a doer upper house which was absolutely awful, the neighbours surely saw that ANYONE who moved in would have to decorate and redo kitchen/bathroom etc, it still had original 50’s light fittings! And avocado suite and 1 kitchen cupboard!

I asked one of them to stop throwing food waste into their front lawn, because it was attracting foxes and rats. It just escalated from there. They would knock and complain I had my curtains closed too late in the day and would race us to block our cars in when we got back home. Weird fuckers

I lived for a few years (after that house) above a really difficult family. I did used to lie awake at night considering reporting to SS but I knew they would know it was me. I also knew how it felt to get reported. I was so worried about the kids though. In the end it did reach a crisis point of its own accord and all the authorities got involved, I hope kids are safe now. I felt really guilty!

I will never understand why someone did it to me. Ive never fallen out with anyone or had any problems with anyone. but deep down I feel someone disliked me as Im a young single mum to 4 kids, I also dont work (carer for my disabled child.) Some people look down on that.