How much do you do for your dh/dp?

[sportyspice]

I just wondered how self sufficient other peoples dh/dp's are and how much in addition to their job they do at home. I make all the meals including brekkie on table ready for when out of shower along with fresh coffee,wash up, make packed lunch,fresh cappucino's when in from work, do all housework, washing, ironing, he has never done a sleepless night,leave him to lie in every weekend and i do virtually everything to do with the children ie bathing, dressing etc although he might deal with the odd nappy perhaps 3 a week.

SaintShar, Yes, I am fairly blunt I suppose, but I usually think before I open my mouth these days (comes with age, I find!). And I did think twice about posting. I am usually very laid back and am known for having a very, very long fuse. I've never made an "angry" post on here before, and probably won't again. This post just really got to me.

I am off to make my DH a cold cup of tea...

Fair enough from me too - luckily my DP isn't keen on coffee and can take a running jump for all those other jobs if I thought it was warranted (sp?).

Those different opinions and approaches apply to all of us right?

Ooh yes.

Hope your DH likes his tea

She's not being smug, just saying how it is for her and enquiring how it works for everyone else.......Now me, I get him his coffee in bed, make his sarnies for lunch, cook,clean and shop while he's at work, have a shower and put on something nice for him when he gets home, have the kids fed and bathed and take them in for a little play while I prepare dinner, put them to bed, have a candlelit dinner finished off by feeding him grapes, and finally slip into something more comfortable upstairs and await his delectations.
Now how smug is that

(Actually the reality is that I'm a stay-at-home drudge who's husband wouldn't even know where the dishwasher is - bit of a losing battle trying to change him, so I've reached sort of a compromise)

And curly sandwiches ready for tomorrow morning

With paste, I think. Can you still buy those little jars of paste?

We've got a cupboard-full!!!

you bet you can - DP gets those every week! guffaw! - when he doesn't get that "sandwich spread" stuff or marmite - . erm, now I sound like a right witch . . .

Sorry, I still think it's a smug post. If I said, ooh, I work a 50 hour week, cook a cordon bleu dinner every night, do all the washing and ironing, make the kids nice wholesome dinners, all labelled and frozen so that they don't have to eat fish fingers, clean our mansion from top to bottom all the time, tend to the garden etc etc while DH puts his feet up, you'd think I was smug wouldn't you? Or a pathological liar?

That would probably be my sister you are talking about . . .

Sometimes I miss the little things (jars!) in Britain...Can you really still get sandwich spread? Does it still look like sick? My Mum used to put that in my sarnies every day when I was at school.

But I don't have any sisters...

Well you say it as you see it Tanzie. I admire you for it really. Sometimes there is too much arse licking goes on, so you should say what you feel!!
I bet that cup of tea is stone-plonk cold now!! (does anyone else say that??)

Yep, those strange red/green flecky bits? minging.

There is now a tuna or coronation chicken version to also intrigue the senses! when I last looked . . .

With nice scummy milk on top. Never heard of stone plonk cold. Where are you from? My family have lots of choice sayings, usually (mis)translated.

My favourite is "Geh, kak in die yam!" (Go sh*t in the sea!)

North West England Tanzie. Where are you from? I notice you say you miss the little things you get in Britain.

Ik woon in Belgie.

Is that Amsterdam? (just looked it up on search engine?!!!)

Just having a pretentious moment and showing off

I am actually a soft southerner but have lived overseas for most of my adult life.

believe me tanzie sportysp. is not being smug when she says her hubbie has never had a sleepless night from her baby-think she is genuinely trying to see how her situation compares to others
my situation is similar to hers the first night i brought my newborn ds home(after a week at my mums) my dp said he couldnt stand being woken and promptly bought a sofa bed and moved into the spare room-consequently i have had about 5 unbroken sleeps in two years and its nout to brag about-id much rather share the night duties and not have to say anything about it and im sure sp.spice feels the same
you shouldn't judge people so harshly -have you even talked to sp.spice about it??

On Saturday August 21 on this thread, I asked "Sportyspice, what are you looking for in this thread? Just curious to see what the general concensus is, or do you want to change your own situation?" Because, like Tanzie, I couldn't figure out what the point of her post was, and I was interested to discuss it with her.

But she still hasn't come back to this thread, and I'm still none the wiser.

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