If you met the one after 34, where did you meet? Particularly interested in online dating as I have had no luck...

[lizzedays]

I've been on various dates with people online, but i never develop much interest initially and i'm often put off if they are keen to meet again - which i know is stupid and probably a reason why i am single!

im also quite cautious of men in general after my previous relationship which just seemed to go from intense love to moodiness and what i believed to be insensitive comments. currently messaging a nice guy who i have met twice but he's very keen to message a lot and it's almost putting me off!!

Met at ceroc, I was 34, he was 39.

Didn't get together for 18 months as we'd both just come out of relationships - mine had been pretty awful and I wasn't ready for another.

Ironically I'd wanted to go to Ceroc whilst I was with my previous DP but he was such a shit I never tried, it wasn't worth the hassle - it was my 'me time' once I finally left him!!

I would say you do need to try a second date, as long as there's nothing you actually don't like. It's sometimes said that with OLD or blind dates, the first time you meet is not even a date, it's just a meeting where you both get to have a look and see if you want to try a date.

Having said that, with both the dates I had that actually went somewhere, I had a feeling beforehand that this person looked more interesting than the others. One had really gorgeous eyes (still swoon over them!); the other texted something I liked the sound of. But I wouldn't have wanted to kiss or hug any of them after just one date, as they were still almost perfect strangers.

Met DP online on what you would probably call a hook up site. Neither of us wanted or were looking for a relationship. But there was a connection neither of us intended or were prepared for. From the first time we met I knew there was something special. The rest is history