If you met the one after 34, where did you meet? Particularly interested in online dating as I have had no luck...

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I've been on various dates with people online, but i never develop much interest initially and i'm often put off if they are keen to meet again - which i know is stupid and probably a reason why i am single!

im also quite cautious of men in general after my previous relationship which just seemed to go from intense love to moodiness and what i believed to be insensitive comments. currently messaging a nice guy who i have met twice but he's very keen to message a lot and it's almost putting me off!!

I was 35, he was 26 - met in a club. I rarely went out but joined my friend on a drunken binge to commiserate her divorce!

We’ve been together 6 years now, married 2, with a 1 year old DS.

Good luck OP. My two penneth is, when it’s ‘right’ you’ll not analyse whether they’re too keen etc - it’ll just work, and be easy.

It's a cliche but..

I forgot about dating.

I got a new hobby.

Met my husband within a year after just going out and having fun with like minded people.

Find something you'd like to do - and forget about actually meeting a man. Find you.

Oh and I was 36. 8 yrs on and we've been married for 5 yrs with two kids.

Met my DP on tinder. I was 34, him 31. I was a single mum of two girls. He had no children and was hot AF so previous OLD experience told me to write him off as just wanting a hook up. Sent a half-arsed reply a few days later because I was bored... Anyways, been together 4 years and have a 2 year old DD!

Met on OLD (dodgy sex site!) - he was in Zurich, I am in Portugal. Together 9 yrs this month....

ETD, I was 44, he was 53

DH and I met on OKCupid. I was 36 and he was 39. Have been together 6 years now 😊

Surely do you not have to meet someone a couple of times to see if attraction is there? Unless it’s full on disgust they invoke in you, then how do you know? You are so nervous on a first date it’s hard to know if you want to kiss a stranger. If you get on well you should probably give them at least 2 dates. Personally for me I want to build up to seeing whether I do want to kiss someone and it is not likely you know the moment they walk into the room, that’s just in films!

I met my OH on POF and we're celebrating 6 years together in a month (2nd time around. I got divorced in 2010).

I'm 47 in November!

It's tough. OLD. I did it in fits and starts not continuously for years as some people do. I found it a little soul destroying at times!

I met my DH through a nationwide organisation that arranges events for their members. I just needed to get out and about having been divorced for a few years. DH had moved to the area from a completely different part of the country and knew no-one. The organisation is aimed at people who may want to try something like, say, abseiling or hill walking but don't want to splash out on a club and may not know anyone who can go with them - so the organisers arrange a day and members pay to join it. The events included things like theatre trips, dinners, jazz club meet ups, weekend walking trips, make your own chocolates, wine tasting, ski-ing trips, pamper days, cook a curry day (at a local indian restaurant) - endless lists of things. So you were bound to meet people who liked the same things as you.

It's aimed at making friends and isn't limited to singles (DH and I stayed as members after we were married because we enjoyed the events on offer and one couple are still members almost fifteen years after they met). DH and I kept bumping into each other because we were booking ourselves onto the same thing so it seemed natural to start dating.

We met our son's two Godfathers through the same organisation and four couples we know met the same way. It's not a dating agency and, in fact, I became friends with a few women before I met DH who are still very much in our lives today and I regularly meet them for lunch or a girls night out. DH and I have now been married 14 years and have a DS. I'm in my 50s.

Friend of a friend - he was 47, I was 41. Sometimes people have an idea in their heads of what 'your type' is, and don't bother introducing you to perfectly suitable blokes.

I tried OLD and got nowhere - I think it's tough for women around 40, because a lot of men seem to set their search parameters a good 5 years lower than their own age, so you end up being invisible in the searches. Plus, people are insanely picky online in a way that they wouldn't dare be in real life - you'd never go up to someone you fancied in a pub and say, "Sorry, before we start chatting, can I just check that you like French cinema and are pescatarian and hate cats, because if you're not, I'll just walk away now?'

I went o holiday by myself, as did OH and we met in Egypt.

I met my now DH at 35 online. He was my first and only online date!
I had been living on my own for 12 years at that point with only a few short term relationships in that time.

When its the right time it just is-but agree you should give it up to 3 dates to see if there is a spark. Obviously not if you hate on sight-but if they are nice it is worth trying a bit harder to see how you feel. Some things are slow burn but just as strong.

Hi Jax,
What organisation is that? Sounds like a fun membership.

Met my last relationship on POF, were together nearly five years and split recently. It was for the best though as we were quite different (I love affection, him not so much).

Anyyyyway, not prepared to go back into OLD. As others have said, it is a nightmare at my age (45). Men my age always lie about their age and the ones that didn't I was not attracted too. My ex was a rare breed, one of the few I fancied and had a nice personality.

I've changed a lot and a relationship is no longer the be all and end all I thought it was. I'm very happy single at the moment. I'm focusing on myself, travelling and enjoying my lovely friends. I'm content to wait it out for as long as it takes. You only have to read this forum to know a relationship is no guarantee of happiness.

Not me personally but my parents met on Match, my mum was in her 40s at the time. Dated a few oddballs then met my stepdad and they have been married over 11 years.

Also my boss met his partner about 4 years ago on March, both in their late 30s and just had baby together.

I think with OLD it's a case of timing and persisting. Don't waste your time on as beyond you don't have chemistry IRL. But also give people opportunities and go on plenty of dates.

I met my OH via a blind date a colleague set up. Married for 2.5years, together for 7.

Good luck!

I am 48 and thought that I would never been in a relationship again.

I did a dabble with some OLD which never resulted in much to be honest, and this made me decide to stop completely, and spent a good few years happy in the knowledge that I am ok single and relationships went to the very bottom of the agenda.

I went to an event, met a friend I haven't seen for many many years, and things have sparked from there. I would never have planned it, as I most definitely wasn't looking for a relationship. But here I am.

Took me a bit by surprise as well. Seemed to me when I was looking, nothing came of it. When I wasn't, that's when I met him.

Met DH at work. We'd actually known each other for a few years but one evening found ourselves waiting outside a station which was closed due to an emergency. So we went for something to eat...

Speed dating! I'd actually given up and was keeping a friend company.

Met DH on Tinder when I was 33. I also went on lots of dull dates - DH was the first person I wanted a second date with! I took regular breaks from OLD when it started getting too soul destroying though and tried to put myself out there more (doing things a bit out of my comfort zone) in the hope of meeting someone the traditional way - figured that would also help increase the odds!

Still in my twenties but when I was OLD (didn't meet my most recent ex there though), I honestly put a premium on my time.

Second date was if we wanted to see each other again, not an obligation, and then onwards.

If you like them but worry about physical chemistry/a spark, I would go for a second date because sometimes that takes time to emerge

Oh and I was 35 and he was 28

I found my happy ever after, they're called 'me'

My girlfriend was 35 and does enjoying telling people the romantic tale of how we were at our company's office party (I was new) and I literally landed at her feet having drunkenly stumbled over my own feet and fallen down the little hill she was standing beside.

I was 47 and met my OH on POF! He was my third date from that site - and as we were both still a bit raw from divorce we took it really slowly. Been together for 18 months now and both in agreement that we dont want to live together or get married but quite happy to pootle on as we are, enjoying each other company and doing stuff and having fab sex (for our age!) [smile[. We see each other 2-3 times Monday -Friday and most of the weekend.

It was weird last weekend when the weather was awful - we spent Sunday afternoon snuggled on the sofa watching films and chatting about whatever nonsense came into our heads interspersed with bouts of snogging!. I've NEVER completely vegged out like that with anyone before, neither has he!! Just goes to show that even if you ARE over 30 or 35 or 40 or 45, a new relationship can still bring you lots of new experiences