Should I wait for him

[SwordToFlamethrower]

To ask to marry me?
We've discussed it loads and we are both up for it. Been together 4 years and TTC. Don't own, we rent.
Should I just keep waiting or should I ask him?

That's lovely OP. Make sure you get yourself protected. Enjoy the build up and your new life

That's great op, now you both know where you stand. If he hasn't proposed within a couple of months, remind him, you only have one life and it's too short to spend it waiting. He does sound like a good 'un though.

OP that is great news congratulations. One note of caution though (and am sure it doesn't apply to your DP) but some partners will propose or get engaged to keep the woman quiet.. but as someone else has already pointed out, engagement has no place in law. Please don't ttc until the registra/vicar says ' you may kiss the bride'.!
If he's genuine, which sounds like he really is- then it's only a few months and is just so much more sensible for you and your children especially as you are living on his income at the moment..
Meanwhile, enjoy your wedding planning!

I asked my DH to marry me 6 months into our relationship. Celebrating our 20 year wedding anniversary this November. Just ask him!!

Sorry - posted before I read your update.
Congratulations!! Fantastic outcome for you xx

Yayyy!!!! Well done op!!!!

I think lots of women make the mistake of thinking that if they take the initiative to get marriage question moving then they're sacrificing romance- but it's not true at all.

Eloping sounds very romantic! So pleased for you!

Congratulations!

Set a date asap

Thank you thank you! I'm in shock :)
He has said he'd rather not elope though. Which is also fine. It will be a modest wedding.
He admitted he's been scouring for rings for a while and planning to pop the question so he's begged me can he still do that. He's over the moon and so am I :)

The princess rescues the hero from the dragon. It’s traditional well done OP!

Well that's a nice ending.
So happy for your OP.

Lovely he sounds lovely too!

You silly mare - how on earth didn’t you twig with the ring size question?

Congratulations - sounds like you’ll have a lovely wedding and marriage

Lovely!!!

Yeah silly mare... but it's been 4 years and I honestly thought he had changed his mind.
Now just to work out the surname thing.
He wants to triple barrel. Yes triple barrel! His surname is already 2 parts, a long European double part surname, plus a hyphon and his dad's English surname!

He has to spell it out to everyone and sometimes it doesn't fit on forms.

I love my surname, I chose it for myself. I ditched my absentee dad's name for my mother's maiden name.

So really don't know what to do about that!

Keep your name. Do your children have it?

He can change his name to yours and then it’ll fit on forms

My children have their dad's surname (can't believe I ever permitted that since we were unmarried!)

Awwww so happy for you both. The excitement is contagious. A big yippeeeeeee from me x

Keep your name. So happy for you! I was quite worried as I have just been to a mediator who has helped stbx partner work out a 50/50 split for kids yet he keeps all his property and chucks me out of the family home because we aren't married. Been supporting him for years while he feathers his property portfolio and we were 'engaged' all that time. He wouldn't agree to a wedding because I would not take his name and I didn't realise how serious things are if you don't have the legal protection of marriage. Wish I had joined Mumsnet earlier

Holy shit that's horrifying.