What is the main thing you argue about with your partner?

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Ours is definitely housework!

Him saying he will do something but then not doing it. Happens all the time.

Both of the above!!

Sleeping. Mine sleeps for bloody ages.

Lack of time and tiredness. We have a 10 month old and sometimes do the competitive tiredness thing...we realise it's pointless very quickly.

Him making comments about what I’ve done with my day when I’m off work (I’m a teacher so off on summer holidays at the moment.) I’m home with a 2 year old - yet I feel like I have to justify what I’ve done every day!

Him ignoring me when I say something because he’s reading something or too absorbed in what he’s doing yet kicking off when I inadvertently do the same back. He’s done it twice to me this evening yet I’ve lost count of the times he’s ignored me!!

We bicker more than argue - he’s the most stubborn asshat I have ever known sometimes but I love him all the same. He can just be a thoughtless prick at times!!

Messiness & untidiness. He thinks I’m too tidy, Ithink he’s a slob.

Division of housework, or rather the lack of it.

Fruityb I could have written your post. Are we the same person?

When I am stressed or rushed off my feet he doesn’t try to help the situation, he starts mirroring my attitude about stupid things which then pisses me off more.

Sometimes he will be unnecessarily strict to the children and seems to just say no for the sake of it.

Him never agreeing with me when he's wrong. For example he's been using my toothbrush for the last 2 days, because he put his toothbrush on to charge on my charger (that I packed for me to use on holiday) and then instead of taking his toothbrush he took mine (hey look vaguely similar). This was all my fault, apparently - nothing to do with him at all. Or the fact he wasn't wearing his glasses. In fact most of the rows we've had recently have been about entirely preventable incidents that could have been prevented if he'd just worn his bloody glasses.

His young adult DC, and my young adult DC, and who's taking the piss out of who this week.

Food. Shopping, planning, cooking, cleaning up afterwards.

Boils my piss I've put effort into learning how to cook while he stretches to beans on toast, only after being bollocked

General bickering and sniping about who is working harder, who is more stressed, what needs to be done etc.
That or disagreeing about how we deal with difficult children's behaviour.

Housework every single time. And often. Never argue about anything else that I can think of though.

We USED to argue all the time about housework, then we made adjustments to afford a cleaner. No more arguing about cleaning.

We now argue about the kids most I guess. He thinks I'm too tough on them.

How little he's here. He's self employed and it's getting ridiculous. Especially seeing as he hardly sees our 2yo, but then takes all day Saturday to do his hobby...

No 1. His mother

No.2 Him leaving dirty dishes piled up in the worktop rather than either putting them in the sink or dishwasher

1. Him leaving crumbs on the worktop, never bothers to use a plate to spread bread or toast!! Does my head in and he never changes

1. His mother.

We argue about giving CFs the benefit of the doubt. He will, and I won't. I think he's a mug.

Him being an utter tool. Mostly.

Over the last 25 years we have rarely argued - but the main areas of moaning are different now than when the DT’s were little and we had two non sleeping babies and two full on careers. Then we moaned (a lot) about lack of sleep, exercise and free time. Now it’s silly things like whether anyone has put the bins out or submitted the online shop.

Buying a dishwasher, of all things. He insists that they’re expensive to run based entirely in his sample size of one person - his mother and her 20year old dishwasher. According to her it doesn’t clean properly, which it won’t since she can’t stack the bloody thing right, but it still does a better job than she does by hand 🙄

I’m collating info on the energy efficiency and cost comparison so I can back my argument. He’s being a stubborn twat. This argument has been going on for nearly 5 years now. I shall triumph, I’m good at playing the long game 😂

Him being a bit snappy with the kids for small reasons.
PMT.
Money (or lack of it).
Mismatched sex drives (well, we don't argue about this but it's not ideal).
Agreeing to do something, e.g. some work in the garden, and then never actually doing it - a few months ago we said we wouldn't try to go on holiday this year. Instead he'd take a week off mid summer holiday and we'd use that time to lay some flags in the garden, cut some bushes back, do the lawn and just do a general tidy around. It's come around but because he suffers from can't-be-arsed-itis he didn't want to. He wanted to put it back again but I want it don't now because otherwise the garden will just turn into a jungle. He felt nagged and I felt like he'd gone back on his promise.

Ours is usually tirednes. Both moaning we got up with ds over night. He doesn't think he should have to as he works full time. I also work full time. Yeah I can't figure it out either

Him insisting I need a new fence or car or tv.I say I don’t, he brings me a quote, I repeat that i don’t need it and he gets cross.

I should add we don’t live together, we have our own houses and bank accounts although I earn a lot less than he does..

Our youngest 17yr old DS. It’s really all we argue about.
It’s usually that I want to let off steam to my partner about DS (in confidence) but my partner gets angry on my behalf and wanting to defend me gets in a shit fight with DS which I hate.