Men confuse me??

[Rosegoldlilly]

Could say I'm a bit clueless when It comes to men and dating 😂
Anyway I'm on an OLD site (tinder) and came across a guy I know and had previously messaged a few months ago.
The background is that we kept matching on tinder we spoke for a bit and then it would go quiet this happened a few times. I finally plucked up courage to ask him on a date. We agreed a activity type date. It got to 2 days before and he went quiet not replying to my texts. So I messaged him saying he was rude and then blocked his number. Haven't spoke to him since.
So I came across him on tinder and curiously wondered if he had swiped me. Turns out he has.
Now I'm confused!! Why has he swiped me after I called him rude and blocked him. My DM thinks I should give him a chance and there could have been a reason for him but replying. In not so sure.
What do you ladies on MN think? 2nd chance to hear him out or not?

He has probably forgotten who you are I'm afraid. I'd stay clear if I were you.

hear him out or not?

Nah.

This is going to sound awful, but it sounds like he didn't recognise you second time round. He's probably swiping loads and someone's picture from months ago isn't going to ring any bells. He was hot/cold last time and ghosted you. I'd ignore and move on. Your dm is probably not the right age group to ab advising on old.

No way. Why would you want that? you want a man who is really into you. Why did he swipe you?? maybe wanted to see if you'd swiped him, was drunk, wasn't looking properly who knows. Set the bar higher and move on.

Your DM has poor boundaries herself re thinking you should give him a second chance so her counsel is not all that wise here. He is clearly not that into you so I would not give him a second chance here.

I would steer well clear of Tinder also.

Hes probably one of those who swiped right on all the photos without looking at them. Then reviews later to see what he's 'caught'.

I'm told a lot of men do this because there are far more men than women online dating, plus women tend to be more choosy who they swipe. A man has to swipe a large number of women to get matches, unless they are especially attractive.

Your dm is probably not the right age group to ab advising on old

Ageist bollocks! I'm in my 60s and used OLD til fairly recently. I started a couple of years ago, then left one site where I was chatting to a guy who clearly just wanted to sext different women. Next time I joined he messaged me - saying he was new to the site they forget who they swipe/chat to.

My advice is - forget it with him. Timewaster.

Apologies for ageist bollox! I'm 50 and have no concept of the ins and outs of OLD. Was projecting.

Accepted Thingsdogetbetter! OP's mum did give shit advice anyway

Why did you swipe someone that you called rude and blocked? If curiosity, then the same could apply to him.

You sound as bad as each other.

He knows who I am as he delivers food to my DM and I've know him since I was younger. So we know some of the same people ect

All the more reason for him not to have been an arse and ignored you before. Seriously, why would you even consider it?

So he blew hot and cold and backed away. And now he’s continuing to be confusing. He’s probably swiped you just to see what happens, and then moved on and kept on swiping.

He’s already turned you down OP. Move on. Self respect time!

No, don't contact him, i can't say why he swiped right for you, but he isn't interested! Why would you give him another chance? Imagine how humiliated you'd have felt if you turned up at the date to be stood up.

Men don't confuse you. This ONE MAN confused you. And maybe you confused him too, seeing as you swiped on him again.

Move on, nothing to see here...

Woman on tinder:
"He looks nice", right. "He looks a bit dodgy and his write ups short", left. "He has nice nice eyes and his profile is funny", right. "Hmm he looks nice but one photo is holding a fish... Hmm.. maybe?", Left..
Etc etc etc..

Man on tinder:
Right, right, right, right, right right, right, right, right, right, right, right..

Klutzy- that is so true!

Tell you what astonished me on Tinder. Just how many women have nose rings. Seriously. Not studs in one side. A ring between both nostrils. Not my thing at all, each to their own, but absolutely loads of them

Is that how men work on tinder 😂😂😂 ok in very clueless

Klutzy 😂😂😂

I would deffo swipe left on this one Rosegold he’s a timewaster.

Agree with others on here. He almost certainly doesn't remember you and he has form for poor behaviour. Block, delete and move on. And don't take dating advice from your mother, she clearly lacks self-respect.

A lot of guys just swipe right without even looking, and then look through their matches to see who's fit. It's a numbers game.

KlutzyDraconequus - Spot on!!! Men keep their options wide open...…

“Turns out he has.”

Well lucky you...
Look, this guy swipes on every woman.

He isn’t interested in you and you should move on.

If it's just a numbers game to men then what is the point in tinder if I'm trying to find something meaningful! This is very painful and time consuming